Spouse Booked Beach House W/O Consulting Me

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Anonymous wrote:Oh no, not three whole blocks away from the beach!! That’s devastating.

Have you seen some of those places? I honestly wouldn't want to go either and wouldn't want to spend my vacation money in that manner.

DCUM never fails.

Cool. Maybe you're OK with a dump but I personally would rather stay home. Vacation is supposed to be a break and relaxing. Some of these in NC make Motel 6 look like the 4 Seasons.

People who demand beachfront, plus Must Bring Dogs!, plus ONLY this one week works -- are going to have to take what's available, when they have all those requirements but don't book months in advance. One of the three requirements had to give, and it was "beachfront." I wonder if what OP considers a dump is simply smaller and a little farther from the beach than she demands. I pity her family; they'll have a week of her carping about every detail of the house she thinks is dumpy and moaning about the loooooong walk to the beach.

As a person that also books OBX houses for a week, I'm imagining that what OP thinks is 'a dump' is a place with *gasp* dated furnishings. We aren't talking about trash and pee.

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[Anonymous]

Before I got married we did premarital counseling and one of the things the counselor said was it was generally good to have an agreement of the $ limit that each person could spend with out consulting the other. We did that early on when money was tighter but I don’t think we have a firm number. But I think a vacation would be over the limit so yes I would think he should have checked with me. Livid seems strong though.

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Gotta link to the house for us to properly assess if you have a right to be livid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We inadvertently stayed at an OBX sheet hole one year. Never again.

I would like to know what qualified as a sheet hole, in your mind.

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How much was the deposit? If it was only like $500 bucks, I can see why he would have wanted to lock it down ASAP and then consult with you later. If he was putting most of cost down and didn’t even try calling you, I would be annoyed, but not livid.

Also depends on how you left the convo when you looked earlier and didn’t find anything. Was it ‘bummer, we waited 6 months too long, let’s plan to go to NYC for that week instead’ or more like ‘let’s see if something opens up in OBX, maybe there will be a cancellation.’

Either way, I think livid is taking it too far. Do you have kids? Were they hoping to go to the beach? I can see why your DH did what he did - he found something that met all of your criteria and snapped it up to try to salvage the trip. So this year you will have a dumpy house that isn’t directly on the beach, and you will never again put it off until right before summer starts.

For LIVID I was expecting he just randomly decided to reserve a beach house in a place you didn’t want to go at a week that didn’t work for your family. Outdated and a block from the beach you had already planned on going to, at the right time? Eh.

[Anonymous]

Someone told your DH that he's King of his house. He said "No, I'm the Queen's personal assistant."

He does all the works but first has to get permission from you for them.

Poor guy.

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Sounds like to you "oh well" meant we can't go this year. And "oh well" to the other meant maybe something will still turn up. Unless you made it clear and the other person agreed that you would both make a different plan for vacation or have no beach vacation this year, then livid probably isn't justified. In future, say what you mean and make sure you both agree.