50 is … 50. “Being old” is often lobbed as a criticism, a judgment.
What does it mean, really? I’ll be 50 in a few months. My dad just turned 95. That’s a whole lot of life ahead … |
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Just for some perspective, how together/fit/with it is your dad? Reading and hearing a lot about people getting super lonely as they get older. It's really bringing me down that that is what awaits me . . . |
I will be 50 in three years. My 96-year-old grandmother just passed. She was fine until 6 months ago. She did not express being lonely to my mom until about 3 years ago. Meanwhile, my mom, who is 70, is in much worse shape due to Parkinsons. I don't think 50 is really old at all. |
My dad is 100% with it mentally and is very connected to family. He lives in a nursing home - where my mom is too. Honestly, he was physically active until Covid hit, and I think he had a more comprehensive physical routine - weight lifting, mobility/yoga - he would be in awesome shape. |
*if he had a more comprehensive… |
And I see my dad (versus my mom, somewhat against stereotypes) remain engaged and interested in other people. Calling people, remembering birthdays, sending emails. |
No, 50 isn’t old and most people should have 20 more “good years” … maybe more. At some point, most people get sick/have issues.
But when it comes to dating/finding finding a new partner, here’s the thing: most have baggage. Most have an ex and kids. Most are paying child support and will have college tuition. Most have family obligations and let’s face it…drama. Practically speaking: can you count on a new partner in their 50s wanting to take on your baggage, and vice versa? What about comingling assets and then dealing with them after one of you gets sick or dies? It’s so much easier to have just one family. |
Baggage? You mean life experience? Wisdom? |
Lol! Those younger men are completely sincere and have no ulterior motives in flattering you, surely. |
The younger men complimenting you believe they can beat your cheeks and you’re willing to give it up. |
I hate it when people tell me I look young. It’s a weak compliment |
If that's what most want, I'm in the least. I'm 50, divorced for 5 years and not the least bit interested in marriage. |
The only people who think 50 isn't old are people near or older than 50. 50 is not young. |
50…. is old.
Its not young, its not middle aged… its .. sigh.. old. |