Not if she wants kids. She's only got 6 years left. |
Yes |
Let him go. |
This. No one who would be OK with a SAHM is going to want the OP's shriveled ovaries. |
OP, maybe the guy can find another career and become a good provider?
I became a SAHM when I had DC2. DH was making good money by then. It was fantastic to be able to stay home with the kids when they were little and not worry about money or have a DH who became resentful when he had to be the sole provider. Am I riding the gravy train? Is DH my meal ticket? Maybe yes. But - did DH gets a college educated wife from an intact and functional UMC family to be the mother of his children and SAH? Did he get a good looking wife? Did he get a functional and well running household and does not have to worry about our kids wellbeing and education AND our family and social obligations? Does he have a lot of leisure time? Does he get a lot of career help from my connected family? Maybe yes. |
It's always about money with women. |
Um, what? I hadn’t even met my dh at 36. Got married at 38, had two kids at 41 and 44. I won’t say it was easy, but op has more than six years left to have children. |
OP here. I’m a CRNA. |
OP here. I don’t think that would be an issue. I froze my eggs last year. I’m also open to adopting if I can’t have kids. |
I'm not a grammar nut, but OP needs to work on theirs. |
Someone here called it. |
OP here. I don’t date men who are jerks and who don’t treat me with respect. |
OP here. His salary is above average - most men make $40k-year. I know men making $100k+ is a small percentage, but I want that if possible. I don’t expect a man to match my salary or make a ridiculous amount. I do hope to marry a man who will make $100-150k. If this was 5 years ago, I would think $80k was good, but you can’t raise a family comfortably on $80k anymore. |
OP here. I’ve gone through tragedy in my life. Dealt with an ex who ended up with an addiction and spent the last 2 years in therapy after a violent SA by an acquaintance. |
As a CRNA without student debt you should be able to do the kids / part time schedule while still keeping your clinical skills sharp.
Who knows - you may find that 6-12mo is enough and then increase shifts especially if you’ve found a great daycare. The $80k he makes now will eat you alive and make for vulnerability surrounded by Doctors and their Mercedes. Meaning you’ll be in an environment where it’ll be hard to compete / obvious that you’re the breadwinner. This will weigh on your mental health and emotional stability as a couple. The crux of the CRNA. Just relocate to Manhattan KS or in a dual practice state where your impressive income can provide everything and anything all while he is able to make a geographically adjusted $80k “forever” |