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You do realize that many men in their 40s-50s who are in good shape, driven, etc.- are dating women in their 30s-40s, right? Swinging is not for me for any number of reasons (e.g., STIs, pregnancy, drama, etc.) I cannot understand why a DH would pimp out his wife when he could easily find someone new. The market of available women from their 30-50s is vast and easy to mine. |
Your friends also might have herpes. Hitting on people who are already in the scene just means you're not approaching couples who aren't swingers, it doesn't fix any of the other issues. |
I tried this and had the same until DW saw another mom put her hand on my arm while talking to me at a kid's birthday party. I didn't think it was a big deal but swinging is clearly off the table now. |
You are Not weird, you are Normal. These are not sexually liberated people, these are people without morals |
Ok so the clubs where people have sex in the open are non-trashy as long as they require men to be invited by women, GOT IT! |
Good for your wife! You Try to have some morals |
I also date only attractive men, but it takes 6 moths to sift through the plevel to find what I want on a combination of looks and being an interesting person to date. I cannot imagine seeing a random man and wanting sex with him on a spot, never happened to me in entire life! 80% of US population at any age group is just unattractive, and DMV area is full of boring ugly paperpushers of both genders. And no, it's not true that your DH can easily find a beautiful chick on a side. The market is vast, but it's full of subpar product. |
But you don't get to ask STI test at a swinger party; and your number of partners is higher thus your exposure to this s..t |
Do you think most people who hit on their friends for group sex are asking for STI panels which include herpes? I think your issue is a separate one from how to approach people. |
I dont have issues. Men I sleep with are mono and provide STI panel before we sleep (only within relationships, short or longer). But I wonder how people who swing keep it safe. Or do they just not care? Why would women want to take multiple Ds? It's such a high risk activity! |
Works in Florida. That’s the signal. Use it everywhere you go, see if anyone says anything or approaches. |
It's just like people who have non-swinging recreational sex: there's the full spectrum from "we have a closed foursome and we all test" to "nice to meet you, want to have sex?" Different people are comfortable with different levels of risk. Most risky, casual sex out there is obviously not swinging. |
Wasn’t this rampant in UMC Potomac, MD 15-20 years ago? |
My DH has brought up the same thing multiple times. I wasn’t the kind of girl who had a lot of one night stands when we met when I was in my twenties. I’m not sure what made him think that I would be one now that I’m a married mother of three. |
Hah. Same. *high five* It was his idea. I wasn't into swinging but he wanted to have new sexual experiences with others and I couldn't trust him not to go behind my back, so I gave in to his request. After that, I took a big step back and really analyzed the sad state of my marriage. Saw him for the truly unsupportive and selfish partner that he was. Started individual therapy to deal with all of the trauma. Told him it was over. He moved out last month and I can't remember the last time I felt such peace. |