How to signal to men that I’m marriage material

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

They just want peace in their home, an attractive woman who can carry a decent conversation without arguing about petty things, and sex.

I'm not feeling the respect
PP I think you answered honestly but it's not what's best for women.

If your only concern is what's theoretically (not pragmatically) best for you, you aren't marriage material, by definition. "Me" is not a marriage. "We" is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, people want to marry their equal. Their equal in education, ambition. Their career equal. Are you expecting a better educated, higher earner than yourself? You shouldn't. If you insist on finding an unequal match, on making that your priority, you are ikely to end up with a spouse that doesn't respect you. Won't respect you as an equal.

That's harsh. Harsh to say. But you need to start from that point-of-view.

That is not what men want. No one needs to marry themself. They already have themself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, people want to marry their equal. Their equal in education, ambition. Their career equal. Are you expecting a better educated, higher earner than yourself? You shouldn't. If you insist on finding an unequal match, on making that your priority, you are ikely to end up with a spouse that doesn't respect you. Won't respect you as an equal.

That's harsh. Harsh to say. But you need to start from that point-of-view.

That is not what men want. No one needs to marry themself. They already have themself.

Guy here and I agree.

I know plenty of really smart woman that don't have degrees, and plenty of stupid woman that do. I don't judge a woman based on her education. Ambition, don't care. Passion, care. Career equal, don't care. Happy and good person, yes. Perfect matches don't have a universal checklist. And a checklist doesn't dictate how much a person is respected.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, people want to marry their equal. Their equal in education, ambition. Their career equal. Are you expecting a better educated, higher earner than yourself? You shouldn't. If you insist on finding an unequal match, on making that your priority, you are ikely to end up with a spouse that doesn't respect you. Won't respect you as an equal.

That's harsh. Harsh to say. But you need to start from that point-of-view.

That is not what men want. No one needs to marry themself. They already have themself.

Guy here and I agree.

I know plenty of really smart woman that don't have degrees, and plenty of stupid woman that do. I don't judge a woman based on her education. Ambition, don't care. Passion, care. Career equal, don't care. Happy and good person, yes. Perfect matches don't have a universal checklist. And a checklist doesn't dictate how much a person is respected.

Serious question, would you marry a woman more successful tha you are?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, people want to marry their equal. Their equal in education, ambition. Their career equal. Are you expecting a better educated, higher earner than yourself? You shouldn't. If you insist on finding an unequal match, on making that your priority, you are ikely to end up with a spouse that doesn't respect you. Won't respect you as an equal.

That's harsh. Harsh to say. But you need to start from that point-of-view.

That is not what men want. No one needs to marry themself. They already have themself.

Guy here and I agree.

I know plenty of really smart woman that don't have degrees, and plenty of stupid woman that do. I don't judge a woman based on her education. Ambition, don't care. Passion, care. Career equal, don't care. Happy and good person, yes. Perfect matches don't have a universal checklist. And a checklist doesn't dictate how much a person is respected.

You care about . . . passion? What does that even mean? Passion for what? For how long? What if they're 70 and in failing health? What do they need to be passionate about?

How old are you?

I'll wait for your explanation but . . . this seems patently absurd on its face.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, people want to marry their equal. Their equal in education, ambition. Their career equal. Are you expecting a better educated, higher earner than yourself? You shouldn't. If you insist on finding an unequal match, on making that your priority, you are ikely to end up with a spouse that doesn't respect you. Won't respect you as an equal.

That's harsh. Harsh to say. But you need to start from that point-of-view.

This isn’t true.
It’s what women like PP think men want but they don’t.
The just want peace in their home, an attractive woman who can carry a decent conversation without arguing about petty things, and sex.

I think you are right.
Men marry their equal in education and ambition and then want her to give it all up to go to the gym everyday and have babies.

I actually think, from reading this board, that there are also a lot of men who don’t want to work at all and would be happy to SAH.

Unfortunately, men can’t seem to figure out what they want when they are in their twenties and dating.

[Anonymous]

I graduated from HSYP and my male classmates mostly married our female classmates. Then they divorced and married women who were not their equals. Those women don't seem to challenge them to be their best, they don't have high expectations of how the man should treat them (other than providing lots of money), and they don't "talk back" like women who graduated from HSYP do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I graduated from HSYP and my male classmates mostly married our female classmates. Then they divorced and married women who were not their equals. Those women don't seem to challenge them to be their best, they don't have high expectations of how the man should treat them (other than providing lots of money), and they don't "talk back" like women who graduated from HSYP do.

Shocking. I know I'd much rather have a perpetually dissatisfied mouthy ivy-league grad than a content, grateful, gorgeous, peaceful wife. Apparently HSYP is churning out an inferior product.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I graduated from HSYP and my male classmates mostly married our female classmates. Then they divorced and married women who were not their equals. Those women don't seem to challenge them to be their best, they don't have high expectations of how the man should treat them (other than providing lots of money), and they don't "talk back" like women who graduated from HSYP do.

Shocking. I know I'd much rather have a perpetually dissatisfied mouthy ivy-league grad than a content, grateful, gorgeous, peaceful wife. Apparently HSYP is churning out an inferior product.

NP. You forgot hot. Hot is important. In both categories.