It’s not necessarily a bad thing. A friend, early 60’s woman, told me recently that she always avoided eating at restaurants alone because she thought there was stigma and it was embarrassing. She said she’s fine with her phone, though. I’ve known women who didn’t eat alone to avoid looking available and warding off passes; phones help with that also. |
I think it depends on the time of day. I know my freshman DD grabs lunch between class, mostly alone, but most days eat dinner with her friend group. |
Which school? |
+1 The insecurity about not being able to grab a bite by yourself is pretty sad. Especially at lunch, when everyone is coming and going and has their own schedule! I feel bad for the kids whose parents are making it clear that if they don't eat with friends at every meal, then they're a loser. Quite the opposite - they're the mature ones. |
Exactly! According to my daughter, this is still the norm. |
Spot on. Some deeply insecure parents here. I bet their kids aren't half as insecure as they are. |
+1 Same with my DD. And now they can order ahead via an app, so she'll often just pick up her food to go (from a dining hall) and take it wherever she needs to go. |
Freshman year my kids always tried to eat dinner with friends but mid day meals were based on where your class was so often they might have been alone. My dd never went to the dining hall for breakfast or lunch.
Now that they are off grounds, they do their own thing, cook at home and/or get meals with friends when budget allows. |
Yes. U of Tennessee had kids in groups everywhere, talking, laughing, having fun. It was refreshing. |
https://grownandflown.com/biggest-difference-between-college-in-90s-and-today/
Saw this and thought others might be interested. |
Big State U grad from the 80's. Never ate alone. Don't really recall seeing others eat alone, as the dining hall had large round banquet still tables. Even if you arrived alone, you always saw someone you knew or had me. Round table seating 8-10 full of friends and friends of friends for every meal, empty chairs, people walk up that recognize you. Your circle expands as a result of going to the dining halls. This was all before phones and laptops. I think students today dine whenever and where ever (we had set times and only your quad's dining hall) it's convenient to them. Meet up with someone? Maybe. Sit with my ear buds, phone and laptop, seems easier. Other than teams, sorority girls, frat guys etc. this feels like the new norm. |
I am sorry to hear this. I lived in South Halls during the 80's and dined in Redifer(?) and recall tables of sorority girls from the various dorm floors. Fortunately I liked my roommate (we are still in touch and her kids attended PSU), had friends across and adjacent from our room and we ate with any floormates around (maybe 40 on the floor) and guys from Ewing or/and Beaver that anyone of us knew. Thankfully we were usually there in numbers and our table was not swarmed as you note. |