I have a friend like this, but I have realized that part of it is that I don't want share my stuff with her. And I'm realizing that I have a friend that I will tell more too and I need to make sure they are getting good airtime. Each relationship is different. |
Some people listen. Some people wait to talk. In my experience, this doesn’t change over time. |
No, OP sounds normal. You sound judgy though! |
I'm not seeing that. If OP said that her friend never gives her a chance to talk then that's boorish. But it sounds like OP's friend is sharing info about herself and OP isn't doing it at the same level. OP is pissy about the good things going on with the friend. Now OP wants to completely dump her friend because her friend doesn't know that OP has a sister. It looks like OP is jealous and drumming up a reason (not knowing that OP has a sister) to hurt her friend. The friend hasn't done anything to justify this kind of mean spirited vengeance from OP. |
I find people who only talk about themselves and never ask about you so rude. I truly don’t understand why they think it’s acceptable behavior. |
I have a friend who does this but also asks about my "weekend" or something too. I'm not a small talker and she constantly talks about herself or her kids so theres' nothing for me to ask about.
I did once and she declared "thanks so much for asking." as if I had FINALLY asked. In her mind, that's what you do in a friendship. I've slowly faded away because I feel she's WAY to invested in her adult childrens' lives and its creepy and boring. |
+1. Same. In our case she never bothers to ask, she is just talking at me. What’s the point? |
Its also tremendously boring to just talk domestic fluff. Does she not have any interest in the rest of the world, politics, art, literature? Nothing?
I mean I would be ready to shoot myself in the head pretty quickly if I hung out with people like "Jane" |
Ghosting is so last decade and just not acceptable behavior for adults. No mentally healthy person is ghosting anyone. OP just start talking about yourself a bit. Share without being asked. I do this with a relative that sounds similar and it works. She has other attributes that are positive. |
These are great points! I'm also an introvert more likely to ask people questions than volunteer info about myself right away BUT I have noticed that many people don't return conversational volleys and ask me questions back. Just because I'm not immediately launching into my stories doesn't mean that I don't ever want to share. |
Also how does one "ghost" and then "explain why" - that's contradictory to what ghosting is, bone head! |