Bipolar

[Anonymous]

When should I tell the man that I'm dating that I'm bipolar? I'm on medication and haven't had any episodes of mood swings in 3 years.

About a week ago, he made a joke about his colleague being bipolar, and I just laughed it off. That was probably the ideal time to reveal that I'm bipolar, but I was too nervous.

I'm not sure if this matters, but I'm bipolar 2.

Also do you think I should reveal that I binge eat sometimes and that I'm dyslexic. I just feel like this is a lot to take in.

Btw, I've been dating him for about 6 weeks.

[Anonymous]

bipolar would make sense to disclose. If he is a jerk about it, better to know now than later.

[Anonymous]

The fact that he made a joke about someone being bipolar shows that he may not be very educated or open minded regarding mental illness. Or maybe he just needs someone to tell him once that jokes like that aren't okay, and he'll cut it out.

I think it's the time to disclose - as long as you feel relatively safe and secure with him. If he acts like a jerk about it or makes you feel uncomfortable, cut and run! You deserve somebody who accepts everything about you.

[Anonymous]

If you binge eat, is your bipolar controlled?

[Anonymous]

I usually think 6 weeks to 3 months is the time to have those talks.

[Anonymous]

You need to tell him now that you are bipolar. Have an article or book ready to show him so he can learn the specifics. If you are binge eating then you may need some additional therpeutic help. Best of luck OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you binge eat, is your bipolar controlled? [/quote


My bipolar is controlled, but the medication I'm on is known to trigger binge eating episodes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The fact that he made a joke about someone being bipolar shows that he may not be very educated or open minded regarding mental illness. Or maybe he just needs someone to tell him once that jokes like that aren't okay, and he'll cut it out.

I think it's the time to disclose - as long as you feel relatively safe and secure with him. If he acts like a jerk about it or makes you feel uncomfortable, cut and run! You deserve somebody who accepts everything about you.

Or, he's already dealt with it up close and personal (which is not good for OP). I think she should not over share, only if they are talking about living together or something. There is baggage we don't accept from a stranger that we do from a significant other. Bipolar is up there with outstanding warrants; tell him if you're really trying to hurry him out the door.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The fact that he made a joke about someone being bipolar shows that he may not be very educated or open minded regarding mental illness. Or maybe he just needs someone to tell him once that jokes like that aren't okay, and he'll cut it out.

I think it's the time to disclose - as long as you feel relatively safe and secure with him. If he acts like a jerk about it or makes you feel uncomfortable, cut and run! You deserve somebody who accepts everything about you.

Or, he's already dealt with it up close and personal (which is not good for OP). I think she should not over share, only if they are talking about living together or something. There is baggage we don't accept from a stranger that we do from a significant other. Bipolar is up there with outstanding warrants; tell him if you're really trying to hurry him out the door.

Wow. Did you just compare bipolar with an outstanding warrant? What a douche. Being bipolar is not a crime!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The fact that he made a joke about someone being bipolar shows that he may not be very educated or open minded regarding mental illness. Or maybe he just needs someone to tell him once that jokes like that aren't okay, and he'll cut it out.

I think it's the time to disclose - as long as you feel relatively safe and secure with him. If he acts like a jerk about it or makes you feel uncomfortable, cut and run! You deserve somebody who accepts everything about you.

Or, he's already dealt with it up close and personal (which is not good for OP). I think she should not over share, only if they are talking about living together or something. There is baggage we don't accept from a stranger that we do from a significant other. Bipolar is up there with outstanding warrants; tell him if you're really trying to hurry him out the door.

Wow. Did you just compare bipolar with an outstanding warrant? What a douche. Being bipolar is not a crime!

Lighten up Francis. My point is, no one wants complications, so keep them to yourself for a while. Don't volunteer them.

Sincerely,
Guy who used to pick up his wife's prescriptions for Depakote and other meds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The fact that he made a joke about someone being bipolar shows that he may not be very educated or open minded regarding mental illness. Or maybe he just needs someone to tell him once that jokes like that aren't okay, and he'll cut it out.

Great point! He likely is ignorant on the subject and would benefit from some nonjudgmental guidance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The fact that he made a joke about someone being bipolar shows that he may not be very educated or open minded regarding mental illness. Or maybe he just needs someone to tell him once that jokes like that aren't okay, and he'll cut it out.

I think it's the time to disclose - as long as you feel relatively safe and secure with him. If he acts like a jerk about it or makes you feel uncomfortable, cut and run! You deserve somebody who accepts everything about you.

Or, he's already dealt with it up close and personal (which is not good for OP). I think she should not over share, only if they are talking about living together or something. There is baggage we don't accept from a stranger that we do from a significant other. Bipolar is up there with outstanding warrants; tell him if you're really trying to hurry him out the door.

Wow, you're awful. Don't listen to this garbage opinion OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The fact that he made a joke about someone being bipolar shows that he may not be very educated or open minded regarding mental illness. Or maybe he just needs someone to tell him once that jokes like that aren't okay, and he'll cut it out.

I think it's the time to disclose - as long as you feel relatively safe and secure with him. If he acts like a jerk about it or makes you feel uncomfortable, cut and run! You deserve somebody who accepts everything about you.

Or, he's already dealt with it up close and personal (which is not good for OP). I think she should not over share, only if they are talking about living together or something. There is baggage we don't accept from a stranger that we do from a significant other. Bipolar is up there with outstanding warrants; tell him if you're really trying to hurry him out the door.

Wow, you're awful. Don't listen to this garbage opinion OP.

^^^^THIS!

[Anonymous]

Does anyone consider controlled and medicated bipolar to be a deal breaker?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does anyone consider controlled and medicated bipolar to be a deal breaker?

I am gong to be completely honest, the mood swings were really difficult. I would proceed with caution the next time if I met someone who revealed that to me early on.