Bf doesn't want to get me a nice rock
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Anonymous
| My BF has told me that he can't afford to get me a nice rock even though we have been dating for 4 years and have been talking marriage for 3. I just feel hurt because he could've saved about 7k easily by now but he didn't and now he wants to get me a whatever Rock just because. |
Anonymous
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Sounds like you might have different priorities.
Don't get engaged. |
Anonymous
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1. Diamonds are and will always be, grossly overpriced, because of the very successful wedding industry. Jewelry in general is not a good investment, financially speaking. 2. Many diamonds are blood diamonds, obtained through conflict and exploitation. You can get a certified clean diamond. 3. Why not try for something original? A different stone perhaps? Not saying it would be cheaper, some sapphires are WAY more expensive, and legitimately so. But you could get a beautiful ring set with quality precious stones that doesn't scream: "I wanted the biggest damn rock and twisted my fiance's arm to get it!". You could design it yourself with your fiance, work with a jeweler, make it special... |
Anonymous
+1 If this is how you are starting out, I would worry that it won’t get any better....... |
Anonymous
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Don't get engaged, #1.
#2, how old are you both? |
Anonymous
Please don't get married. |
Anonymous
When someone comments about buying clothes made in Bengladesh, other non-diamond conflict minerals, or electronics made in exploitative factories, do you comment on the ethics of that? Do you think sapphires don't come from ethically questionable sources? What a weird perspective, too, spend more on a sapphire but seem like you didn't pressure your fiancé into a high cost item (even though you did)? OP he knew what you wanted, but didn't care enough to meet your expectations. This does not get better over the course of a marriage. Only agree to marry a man who blows you away with how thoughtful and considerate he is. In the end you'll get a guy who is acceptably thoughtful and considerate. If you yourself aren't thoughtful and considerate, you now know what to work on in your next relationship. |
Anonymous
×1000000 You are not on the same page, and he doesn't eveneed sound like he cares what you want. believe me, that is a bad sign before marriage he should have saved that and more, have had your best friend help, etc. the fact je is so standoffish about it suggested that he is not investing in the relationahip... bad news bad news. |
Anonymous
| I dated a guy like this. He had plenty of time to save up, but just didn't. Bought himself tons of luxury goods over the course of our relationship too. Then spent $500 on a ring for me. Long story short I didn't marry him and my husband (the kind of man who takes his share of night feedings and diapers, who supports my career on par with his) got me a $10k ring with a megawatt stone. |
Anonymous
| Hope your bf sees this. And runs |
Anonymous
Me too. To give OP time and space to meet a guy who doesn't suck. |
Anonymous
| Troll post. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| You're a greedy bitch, and I hope he escapes your evil clutches. |
Anonymous
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10 k on a ring? 500$ wasn't enough?
I don't understand some of you women. These expectations for rings are egotistical. Signed, a woman, who would never pressure or even ask for any jewelry that expensive. |