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Newly pregnant. Looking to hire housekeeper/nanny
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Anonymous
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Anyone hire someone like this? Someone who basically functions as a SAHM in your family life? Ideally this person would cook 2 meals a day (lunch for LO and dinner for us), meal plan, run errands including grocery shopping, take LO to doctor's appointments and take care of him/her when sick, play with LO during the day and later take him/her to activities and schedule play dates, take him/her to school, and maybe do some light cleaning while he/she is at school. We already have a weekly cleaning service so I'm just envisioning the nanny being the one to tidy up the house before we come home from work. Nothing like cleaning bathrooms, etc. Can I ask the nanny to do LO's laundry?
How much would you pay such a person? $50k, 60k? Ideally this person would stay on for as long as she wishes. DH and I both have extremely demanding jobs and can't be the "default parent." And before you flame, at least we know this going into it so we are willing to pay as much as it takes to hire a fantastic nanny. We are both out of the house 12 hours a day so I am thinking we might hire a nanny for 10 hours and then a babysitter on top of that for weeknights? Can I ask someone to work 12 hours 5 days a week? Right now we survive on take out but when LO gets here he or she will need home cooked meals so ability to cook is a must. Anyone in this position who can give me some advice? Did you hire your nanny from a service or post an ad? Our jobs are nonnegotiable so don't bother coming in to tell me to quit. That'll fall on deaf ears so it's not worth your energy. |
Anonymous
| I would get a nanny and an au pair. What you need is more than one person can handle without burning out. Good luck. |
Anonymous
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I'd think you'll need two people. A nanny and a part-time someone else to cover the other time. The nanny might work 7:30-4:30 and the part-time will do the evenings.
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Anonymous
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I think a lot of people would do it for $60k plus benefits. Don't forget that part. You need to offer a basic healthcare plan.
And look into hiring a night nanny as well if either of you travels. |
Anonymous
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Can you hire a family member to do it? Like maybe one of your moms if she is retired?
I see people saying you really need two people but what you *really* need imo is consistency. Your baby doesn't need to be with Mom or Dad necessarily but he or she will need to bond with one primary caregiver. The more time you can give with the primary nanny, the better off your baby will be. |
Anonymous
| Nanny + au pair is right. Or save yourself the trouble and skip the kid! |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
NP. She's already pregnant. Too late. |
Anonymous
| Our nanny does most of this, although both DH and I have flexible jobs, which is important because with the amount of work our nanny does weekly (3 kids, 2 different schools, baby at home) she does need a day off here and there to recharge. We also have a weekly housekeeper and pay our nanny $ about 45,000 a year plus bonus and benefits (particularly lots of vacation time). I do think you'll need to hire a full time nanny plus au pair and that will be approx $45k plus $20k. |
Anonymous
| Wow 2 people to do a SAHM work. Does that mean the FMV would be $120,000? I'm a SAHM, but then my husband is the primary caregiver in the evenings when he comes home. OP, when you come home from work, do you and/your DH expect to do any of the care giving and/or housework? If so, maybe you can get away with 1 nanny. |
Anonymous
NP. The OP said she wants coverage from 7 am - 7 pm. Sooooo I'm guessing that's a no. |
Anonymous
Of course I am. I am worried about it though because I often have work to finish at home that's time sensitive and needs to be done by the following morning. DH is more of a definite no. In fact, he wants me to hire a sitter for the weekend too. I think he sees himself being a "50s dad." You know, kick the ball around on the weekend for an hour but other than that... Would a nanny plus au pair be enough to provide some weekend coverage too? If I asked the au pair to work early evenings during the week and a few hours each weekend day? |
Anonymous
Why are you reproducing with this man? Why are you admitting to this? Do you want to be flamed? |
Anonymous
This pregnancy was an accident but I am going with it because it's probably my only chance to have a baby. I'm being honest about my situation because this is anonymous and I need to be honest to get the best advice about what to do. I want to keep my job and DH isn't going to be much help to me so I have to hire it. That's just how it is. |
Anonymous
| Oh god. Please only have one kid. Two demanding jobs and a totally uninterested father. This is a nightmare. Please hire someone your child can bond with who you can keep on long-term. |