How to tell if you are really into women?

[Anonymous]

I'm married and love my husband. But the past year of so I've become more interested in very attractive women. I find myself staring and wondering how they can be so beautiful. Not sure if its an appreciation of beauty or me comparing myself or if I am having more and more am attraction to women.

[Anonymous]

I worked retail in my 20s my boss was gay and a coworker couldn't figure out if he was gay or straight. My boss was flummoxed by that. He said look at a picture of a naked man and a naked woman. Which one do you like better? Maybe you're bi?

[Anonymous]

If you're wondering about it you're probably attracted to them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I worked retail in my 20s my boss was gay and a coworker couldn't figure out if he was gay or straight. My boss was flummoxed by that. He said look at a picture of a naked man and a naked woman. Which one do you like better? Maybe you're bi?

+1. I'm straight. I know because I only feel sexual attraction to men.

[Anonymous]

This is why its confusing. I always thought women were more attractive in an emotional sense. But I have always been more attracted to men. Never would dream of being with a woman sexually until recently.

[Anonymous]

I'm a guy. Women are definitely more attractive.

[Anonymous]

Well I'm a gay woman, but I'm definitely only attracted to some women. If you put picture of a naked man in front of me, I'd know I wouldn't be interested in sleeping with him. If you put a picture of a naked woman in front of me, I may or may not be attracted.

But I am definitely sexually attracted to women though. but I'm not attracted to all women across the board.

[Anonymous]

Do you want to have sex with the women? That's the difference. Many can appreciate a woman's beauty.

[Anonymous]

I find women attractive and the thought of receiving is hot. Giving? Definitely not. So, yeah, I'm not gay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you want to have sex with the women? That's the difference. Many can appreciate a woman's beauty.

+1. Appreciation of beauty and sexual desire are not the same thing.

[Anonymous]

Statistically attraction for other women can happen late, into the 40s.

[Anonymous]

There are well researched studies that show women can be sexually aroused by all sorts of different sexual situations (straight and gay), but arousal is not the same as actually acting on it or identifying as gay. This is not as true for men.

[Anonymous]

I'm in my upper thirties, have always had bi tendencies, and my attraction to women has become a lot stronger in recent years. Like PP said, I'm not attracted to all women, but very strongly to some.

My questions to OP: if you see a hot ass, are you jealous or might you want it sitting in your lap? Envious of pretty breasts, or do you want to touch them? Do you admire or want to kiss her beautiful lips?

[Anonymous]

I am attracted to women. I have kissed girls rubbed boobs, but the thought of oral sex with a woman makes me sick. I gagged.

[Anonymous]

OP, you can appreciate women's beauty and find them attractive without wanting to have actual sex with them. This is an aesthetic and sensual appreciation. You can be straight and feel this. We don't have to sexualize everything.

I'm bi. Some men and some women appeal to me on that aesthetic level and I could stare at them all day, but don't want to have sex with them. Others, yes, I want to sex them up. If you don't feel turned on and an urge to bury your face in them, you're probably straight with an appreciation for all beauty.