When people say they are not SAHM material

[Anonymous]

What do they really mean by that?

It always makes me scratch my head because don't you parent your kids on the weekends? It's like that but every day. And they go to school for a good chunk of it (including the preschool years)...

[Anonymous]

Please search the archives on this.

[Anonymous]

Baiting. Let's cut to the chase - yes, you are better. You win for being a SAHM!

[Anonymous]

Congratulations for winning parenting! Here is your "Clueless Martyr" trophy!

[Anonymous]

Try it, then come back here and let us know if you still have questions. Try it for a week with two kids under 4 years old, the "before they go to school for a good chunk of it" part.

Everyone has his/her own strengths and weaknesses and his/her own preferences and needs. Different arrangements or combinations work best for different people.

If you are doing it then you are being deliberately obtuse about why it might be different for other people.

[Anonymous]

I mean that I don't like kids. I don't have the patience to deal all day every day. I feel low level anxiety when I'm alone with them for long blocks of time.

[Anonymous]

OMG! I totally never thought of that! Guess I'll just quit my job now.

[Anonymous]

It means she can't stand not to have an important job to go to every day and think big, important thoughts that will save the world Because don't you ever forget, she is WAY smarter and more important than you. You're barely in her range of sight from up there on her high horse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Try it, then come back here and let us know if you still have questions. Try it for a week with two kids under 4 years old, the "before they go to school for a good chunk of it" part.

Everyone has his/her own strengths and weaknesses and his/her own preferences and needs. Different arrangements or combinations work best for different people.

If you are doing it then you are being deliberately obtuse about why it might be different for other people.

Um, some people are just dumb. I met a SAHM who asked me how I managed to work and have kids. At first I thought she meant "wow--how do you make it all work?" but then I realized--she was genuinely asking. She had no idea what people who work do with their kids, it was like she had never heard of child care. Dumb as a rock.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It means he can't stand not to have an important job to go to every day and think big, important thoughts that will save the world Because don't you ever forget, he is WAY smarter and more important than you. You're barely in his range of sight from up there on his high horse.

fixed that for you

[Anonymous]

I'll bite.

I work 7-3:30. I am home by 4.

My kids napped 10-11 and 1-3 or they were at preschool from 9-1.

I saw my kids from 4-9 every night and the weekends. When they were little (<3yo) I worked 30 hours a week so I even saw them more. I only worked out of the home 3 times a week.

I never said I was not SAH material, but I probably said I did not see the point of not working... many hours they were asleep or are at preschool. So there were about 4-5 awake hours they did not see me, so I guess I just did not see the point of quitting my job.

Also, I hate to clean, so I appreciate having a cleaning person. I also appreciate the fact that they had a nanny, she was part of our family and I believe contributed to their well being in a positive way. Also, since I worked so little my nanny (later aupair) would work on Saturday every other weekend and my H and I would go out to dinner, run errands, go have a drink, go for a hike/bike ride. It just seemed to make more sense for our family "health" financially/emotionally/etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It means she can't stand not to have an important job to go to every day and think big, important thoughts that will save the world Because don't you ever forget, she is WAY smarter and more important than you. You're barely in her range of sight from up there on her high horse.

NP. I don't think this is it. I know many WOHM who say they would do it if they could still use their FT daycare. It's not that they loooooooove their jobs so much (most of them anyway). They're just scared of being with their kids on their own all day, every day.

[Anonymous]

^^^^ oh yea... and I hate playing pretend. I can build legos for hours but pretend play... shoot me now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'll bite.

I work 7-3:30. I am home by 4.

My kids napped 10-11 and 1-3 or they were at preschool from 9-1.

I saw my kids from 4-9 every night and the weekends. When they were little (<3yo) I worked 30 hours a week so I even saw them more. I only worked out of the home 3 times a week.

I never said I was not SAH material, but I probably said I did not see the point of not working... many hours they were asleep or are at preschool. So there were about 4-5 awake hours they did not see me, so I guess I just did not see the point of quitting my job.

Also, I hate to clean, so I appreciate having a cleaning person. I also appreciate the fact that they had a nanny, she was part of our family and I believe contributed to their well being in a positive way. Also, since I worked so little my nanny (later aupair) would work on Saturday every other weekend and my H and I would go out to dinner, run errands, go have a drink, go for a hike/bike ride. It just seemed to make more sense for our family "health" financially/emotionally/etc.

All the SAHMs I know still have cleaning services, nannies, yard service, etc. They're not mutually exclusive.

[Anonymous]

Another troll thread.

What's the point?

Signed,

a SAHM