I asked my 3 adopted children (19,16, 15) if they are “collectibles” and they told me no. You have no idea how much sh!t my children have had to hear during their short lives. I gave them permission early on to respond however they wish. |
Well, aren't you just too wonderful for words! |
Does the US have a treaty with them?
If so, your next step is to identify a US adoption agency that works with a particular country. They will guide you on the rules/processes/timeline, etc |
I know plenty of people who treat their biological children like collectibles. |
Adoption is certainly better than the alternative for most kids who would otherwise grow up in orphanages, even if they do lose their culture. |
The amount of racists in this thread cheering starving orphans is too damn high. |
Some of them are on Instagram |
OP sounds totally fine. There are a lot of weirdly aggressive responses on this thread. |
I'm most positive that children are for sale, yes. But you have to decide if you are OK woth the idea that you are not saving a child, you are purchasing a child. |
That's the home country's prerogative. They'd rather have kids in group homes than out of the country. |
For those who think adoption is easy and there are gobs of kids sitting there waiting, it simply isn’t so. Not only are there few healthy babies (fewer still if you are Caucasian and would also a Caucasian baby or have other specific requests). There are many restrictions as well not to mention fees and studies snd all sorts of barriers. It’s much easier to go other routes like IVF to try to have kids. |
Is that a bad thing? |
It is not a healthy dynamic to adopt children for charitable reasons. You are having another child, just by a different means. You should adopt for the same reasons you give birth (because you want to expand the size of your family).
A child is not a cause (not chastising OP, just trying to educate people who don’t understand why offense might be taken), |
C'mon. If you have been on this board for any length of time you recognize the anti-adoption freaks on here. Same writing style.
--Mom of 2 daughters, both international adoptions, been on this forum for 8 years |
8 years! Almost as long as the OP! 😂 |