Thanks so much for your reply. |
Apparently OP only wanted feedback that completely agreed with her. |
Then that is the issue, OP. Not him saying you were "dramatic." And to answer your question, yes, you should continue to be courteous. Not saying "thank you" and such is indeed petty. |
You sound dramatic, to be honest. I can't imagine going to someone's supervisor and whining because they said they didn't want to work with me! Wow. |
I guess my question is why do you care?
He’s clearly somebody that you’re really don’t want to get along with other than an amicable work relationship. Why are you wasting emotional resources with this? |
The person is allowed to express an opinion about you. Your direct report told you this for what reason? They could have kept it to themselves and shut down the gossip mill. But no, they told you; then you told your boss and demanded he police someone from expressing a criticism of you, based on gossip you heard. That was indeed petty.
You should have kept that separate from the issue of you reviewing his work. Assuming that this has been a worsening problem, asking your supervisor to have a meeting with the three of you to discuss a clear process for reviewing his work would have been professional. I started out getting offended at little stuff like this. You will be much happier if you learn to choose your battles wisely. |
|
You are totally overlooking the fact thst she escalated this minor mattet (her words). never ever do that |
It was a dramatic response to being called dramatic. That's what people are trying to explain. Are you on the spectrum? I'm wondering why this isnt sinking in. Everyone doesnt have to like you. And b****ing to your boss about someone calling you dramatic and demanding he change is definitely not going to make them like you any more... more likely the opposite. |
Not true at all. This is actually imo fairly mature of op. When the coworker didn’t pass the work for review, she escalated it (appropriate) and when asked why, OP relayed why. A lot of people would be putting their spin on the situation to look better and OP did not. It’s not dramatic to state what actually happened if it’s blocking your work. There are people who are just ridiculous/impossible to work with and it’s honestly best to just escalate it and not get into a power struggle. In this case it was confirmed that the other person is the issue. |