The world feels absurdly small. DH and I are going to be renting a home similar in size/location to the one we own, and we looked at 3 houses. Two were shown to us by the owner/landlords and we had a crazy amount in common, including people, with each one. I had a friend who would respond to "It's a small world" with "No, it isn't. It's a small social class." |
Most of my NW was not inherited, as in someone died and left a pile of cash to me. Most of my NW is money I have worked for. But ... family wealth is why I've been able to accumulate that money -- for example I have zero student loans; my mother paid for college, my grandmother paid for my law school, and my boyfriend (with family wealth of his own that allowed him to be able to afford it) paid for my MFA (he's now my DH). And I was able to buy a condo in my early 30s when an apartment building I lived in went condo because my mother gifted me money to use as a down payment. That property appreciated, and I made quite a bit of money when I sold it when DH and I bought our house. So I have accumulated wealth as a result of some things that cost some money up front -- a professional education and the opportunity to invest in real estate. Money that came from family wealth, even though it didn't come to me after someone died. So although I'd agree with you that the NW of lots of rich folks, especially around here, doesn't consist of directly inherited funds -- generational wealth is still at play. |
Best autocorrect ever, lol. |
I'm not PP but I think PP is saying that there exists a stereotype that people who are down to earth are not rich. PP finds this stereotype comical because in PP's experience, people who are rich are also down to earth as they are likely self made. |
A minority of rich people are down to earth, that’s true. But the vast majority of rich people are not down to earth. This is a fact that explains the stereotype. |
I guess I'm really not understanding what this "down to earth" metaphor means to y'all. I'm not trying to argue, I just really don't understand exactly what this means to those of you posting this. |
+1 Its really hard to enjoy it. I'm also astounded by how much career success around me was built by family connections/priviledge vs. hard work. |
Never wanted to buy anything, and the richer I get, the less things I want.
The rich are quiet people minus the Kardashians. |
Why does poster think poor people don’t know rich people?
I was insanely poor growing up. My Mom in 1979 was a widow with a zero net worth, 9k a year income and 4 kids. A rusted out car that barely ran in a tiny tiny run down house right in top of train tracks on a tiny plot. But I knew tons of millionaires and friends parents were very rich. |
I always thought rich people would be more enlightened and kind because they were financially abundant and highly educated - shocked to find out it’s often the opposite.
I’m also shocked at how hard they push their kids to achieve - as though they have just washed up on shore and are fighting for food. Why subject your already wealthy child to physically dangerous sports? The number of wealthy kids on crutches and sustaining multiple concussions with proud parents amazes me. Poor people in the past boxed - you don’t need to do that. I’m surprised at how much they compete with and try to one up one another financially. The car stickers for college/luxe vacations/private clubs are unique to UMC/wealthy areas - maybe just umc but stilll. I figured it was one big happy rich community where everyone is happy around one another and rich…but no - they still compete. Maybe more so than lower class areas |
That people who become wealthy pretty much stay who they are, as do people who were always wealthy and lost everything. The change in attitude/expectation is in the next generation. |
How almost all of my anxieties can be resolved with "worst case scenario, I lose $xxxx, and that would not affect my life significantly, though I'd be very annoyed about it and am going to try to stop it." When that exact same amount of money took me more than 2 years to achieve as a net worth milestone after graduating college (starting from modest student debt). Related. How easy it is to get money just for having money, and the argument is that you deserve that because you are taking a risk with your money (investing) and the government needs people to invest in stocks or in housing (and be landlords for people who may never have a home). I get this is the whole concept of capitalism, but it really makes me look at all of those "I worked hard for my money, why am I getting taxed so much" whiners in a different light. And it is easy to lose that same money in taking risks, but generally, a diversified and balanced investment portfolio goes up. How people that come from family with money like to talk about how hard they worked for their standing in life, especially when they are young. It isn't that they didn't work hard, but they don't see how many people work just as hard and don't get the same result. Or how they can take certain risks (and get the reward) because they have always had a family safety net to fall back on if things didn't go right. Mostly, how much easier life is, though. You just don't have to worry about little stuff, and can look at the bigger picture of finances & life. |
I disagree. As someone who takes calls on vacation when needed. |
Totally! It is easy to “bootstrap” a business when you have family money and resources to fall back on. |
Most of $$ you received from family was better than inheritance so you got HUGE a head start. Timing is everything, much better to receive $100K at age 30 vs. receiving $5m at age 70. |