EA is feeling close to someone you have long in depth conversations with about all aspects of life. You begin to think about them daily and fantasize about a romantic and physical relationship with them. Physicial intimacy is easy but emotional connection is a true ‘loving’ relationship that is difficult to get over. |
My friend has been having an EA with her supervisor for over a year and I have distanced myself from her. They take long, drinking lunches 2x a week. She tells me he spends $250/lunch most times. When they travel, they tack on an extra day to sightsee. She said they are rarely physical, except for making out and oral. I told her I do not want to hear about it because I think it is inappropriate. I think an EA can be just as damaging as a physical affair. |
your example is a physical affair and not EA if there's making out and oral. |
I would consider this a physical affair since there is some kind of sex involved. |
DH thought nothing of my EA but it was pretty serious to me. |
I think this depends on what the definition of "is" is. |
So you wanted him to be upset? |
I get affection I don't have in my marriage, so my friendship is an emotional affair of sorts. DH is a good guy, and I love him, but he is not warm or caring. With DH, even when we go on dates, he rarely focuses on what I want. In fact, I done think it occurs to him to consider. He leads and has fun; I follow. With my friend, much of it is about me: he remembers my preferences, he's interested in my work, he asked about my hobbies. From what I understand (we rarely discuss our spouses, if at all), he does not get much attention from his wife, and it matters for him that I ask about his FOO, friends, etc. Nothing physical happens, although we once held hands in a movie |
I’m in the midst of a very complicated emotional affair with Sydney Sweeney then. |
This is the same as the catholic girls not losing their virginity because all they did was have anal sex. |
I didn’t want him to take it too hard but it was very much a nothing burger to him to the point where I questioned myself over whether it was a big nothing burger. |
I too wanted my DH to care, maybe to get jealous. Nope, nothing. |
If you held hands, it is physical. I would not go out of town with him. |
I’m no adultery proponent but this is paranoia. |
It happened some years ago, we had plenty of opportunities to sleep together but never did. We been friends for more than 15 years. There were times when EA was more evident and intense and times when we barely spoke. |