Boyfriend coming to visit for the weekend...

[Anonymous]

We've been dating for 3 months now and haven't had sex yet but he's coming this weekend and it's pretty much guaranteed that it's going to happen and for some reason I'm super nervous?!?! I'm 26 and I've slept with 6 guys before so it's not like I'm a virgin and this is new to me but for some reason, I'm nervous about this weekend! I definitely want it to happen and so does he and we've talked about it. I don't know if it's the fact that I just REALLY like him and am just psycing myself out or what! Has anyone else ever been nervous about the anticipation of sleeping with someone for the first time?

[Anonymous]

Sure. He's probably nervous too. TALK to him about it! Do it first thing so you can stop being nervous and enjoy the rest of the weekend with him.

[Anonymous]

Well....is your gut telling you something? Is it too soon! Sure three months is a long enough time, but you guys seem to be dating long distance? That makes the timing a little different. Listen to your gut. Wait if you want.

[Anonymous]

You are probably nervous because you really like him. Don't worry, it doesn't have to be amazing the first time together. The added pressure isn't helpful to either one of you. I have a feeling that you'll feel better about when you are together again in person. If you love each other, one night if mediocre sex will not derail things.

[Anonymous]

Troll post, no way this is true...

[Anonymous]

How many times have you been in each other's company? You've met, right (meaning not online relationship)? I agree it will be more confortable when you've soent more time together.

[Anonymous]

Are you bobcats woman? If so, stop meeting people online!

[Anonymous]

What do you mean he's "coming this weekend?" Is this a long distance relationship?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Troll post, no way this is true...

Agree but I will bite. OP, he is much more nervous then you because men are usually judged much more harshly in bed than women. Going through his mind is: will I be able to keep it up? last long enough? were the other guys bigger? will she like my technique?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Troll post, no way this is true...

Agree but I will bite. OP, he is much more nervous then you because men are usually judged much more harshly in bed than women. Going through his mind is: will I be able to keep it up? last long enough? were the other guys bigger? will she like my technique?

Guy here. Yeah, assuming this post is legit (or even if it's not, this still holds true) the guy will surely be FAR more nervous than you. Women can largely get a pass on performance, especially early on. It's all on the guy to provide amazing sex.

Just don't go all starfish on him and expect him to figure you out. He'll appreciate hints and directions.

[Anonymous]

OP here: not really sure why I would be called a troll but ok. He lives an hour and a half from me and we see each other usually every weekend as we switch off. He's coming to my place this weekend (tonight until Sunday night).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are probably nervous because you really like him. Don't worry, it doesn't have to be amazing the first time together. The added pressure isn't helpful to either one of you. I have a feeling that you'll feel better about when you are together again in person. If you love each other, one night if mediocre sex will not derail things.

Op here: thank you! That makes me feel better!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are probably nervous because you really like him. Don't worry, it doesn't have to be amazing the first time together. The added pressure isn't helpful to either one of you. I have a feeling that you'll feel better about when you are together again in person. If you love each other, one night if mediocre sex will not derail things.

Op here: thank you! That makes me feel better!

Are you bobcat woman?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here: not really sure why I would be called a troll but ok. He lives an hour and a half from me and we see each other usually every weekend as we switch off. He's coming to my place this weekend (tonight until Sunday night).

Probably because it's inconceivable to some people here that someone could actually date a person three months before having sex. Most people on here jump into the sack somewhere after the first round of drinks.

I kid. Sort of.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here: not really sure why I would be called a troll but ok. He lives an hour and a half from me and we see each other usually every weekend as we switch off. He's coming to my place this weekend (tonight until Sunday night).

Probably because it's inconceivable to some people here that someone could actually date a person three months before having sex. Most people on here jump into the sack somewhere after the first round of drinks.

I kid. Sort of.

OP here: lol ok but definitely not a troll! I've been in mostly long term relationships and try to not rush into that until I know I really like the person. I've never been a one night stand kind of girl.