The Stigma around AA parents adopting a white baby

[Anonymous]

A friend of mine adopted a white infant. She and her husband are both black, and they have two biological children. She hadn't planned on adopting but she ended up in a situation where the baby practically fell into her lap and she obviously got attached. Parental ties were cut, and she legally adopted the child right before her first birthday.

I knew it wasn't common, but was surprised at the shitstorm it caused from the white and black community. She's some some nastiness in a "progressive" area. She said she hasn't found a single other black family who has adopted, let alone a child not within their own rase.

Why is this so unheard of? I know some people have issues with anyone adopting outside their race, or adoption in general but this is an entirely different level of ridiculousness she's faced.

[Anonymous]

I know MANY black families who adopt, but it's usually a relative. And it's usually after having the kid in their care for years and years.. A grandchild, niece, etc. And many more who just raise the kids as their own.

I don't see much interracial domestic adoption at all. Doesn't matter the race of the adopting parents.

But what kind of pushback is she getting?

[Anonymous]

It's so unusual because healthy white infants up for adoption to parents of any race is a rarity! Seriously. We were told 3-5 years for a healthy white infant, be prepared to go anywhere in the country, and spends sauce amounts of money to "fast track" whih I assumed meant a national search. To adopt quicker, white parents may findit quicker to try for an AA child in foster care or with special needs. Honestly I would be shocked if white infants getting Being placed with AA parents ever happens unless it's a placement arranged between friends.

[Anonymous]

I've often wondered why there are plenty of white parents adopting black children, but never vice-versa. Why is that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've often wondered why there are plenty of white parents adopting black children, but never vice-versa. Why is that?

supply and demand. It's actually quite sad when you think about it.

Essentially healthy white babies are like diamonds.

And adoption is not prevalent in the black culture.

Therefore there are way more black babies available and lots of white fams that just want a healthy baby and not enough white healthy babies to satiate the market demand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've often wondered why there are plenty of white parents adopting black children, but never vice-versa. Why is that?

This can't be a real question. Seriously?

[Anonymous]

Many AA families do informal care arrangement. I have heard of a few situation like OP, but very few. Usually the family knew the birthparents or there was a history. There are more white families looking to adopt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Many AA families do informal care arrangement. I have heard of a few situation like OP, but very few. Usually the family knew the birthparents or there was a history. There are more white families looking to adopt.

That's her situation, she fostered and when the birth mother terminated her rights she adopted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know MANY black families who adopt, but it's usually a relative. And it's usually after having the kid in their care for years and years.. A grandchild, niece, etc. And many more who just raise the kids as their own.

I don't see much interracial domestic adoption at all. Doesn't matter the race of the adopting parents.

But what kind of pushback is she getting?

A lot from her family and unfortunately her church family as well. The give her grief, saying if she wanted to adopt their are a lot more black children in need. That her other two children were going to become third wheels etc...

Neighbors made snide remarks, these white "liberal" friends would say that it would be a tough life for a white little girl in a black community. Just a lot of inverted racism.

[Anonymous]

I know a biracial family, one parent Latino and one parent of African descent - who have adopted a white baby. I never asked (because it is not my business how they formed their family), but I have always suspected it was a private adoption and they were chosen by the birth mother.

[Anonymous]

Black people do adopt, and at very high numbers. Especially single African American women. It's just supply and demand for white parents. The infertility rate factors in too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've often wondered why there are plenty of white parents adopting black children, but never vice-versa. Why is that?

supply and demand. It's actually quite sad when you think about it.

Essentially healthy white babies are like diamonds.

And adoption is not prevalent in the black culture.

Therefore there are way more black babies available and lots of white fams that just want a healthy baby and not enough white healthy babies to satiate the market demand.

This statement is entirely untrue.

African Americans make up 13.2 % of the population of the US, but 27 % of adoptions from foster care are by AA parents, and 19% of domestic private or agency adoptions.

African Americans are more likely to adopt American children than white Americans. However, African American children are disproportionately available for adoption, and so even with high rates of adoption in the AA community, there are still AA children, generally those who are older and/or have special needs, available for adoption.

[Anonymous]

I personally disagree with adopting children outside of your race. Just causes unnecessary identity issues. Biracial kids have enough of that shit to go around.

[Anonymous]

I am black and I would never adopt a white baby. With all the unearned benefits that whites enjoy just for being white, they don't need my resources too. I would much rather take care of a black child because black children are less likely to be adopted and much more in need of stability in this racist, unfriendly society. I also don't think I could relate to a white child. I have a white husband, but taking care of a white child reminds me too much of playing nanny to a lazy white woman's spoiled child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am black and I would never adopt a white baby. With all the unearned benefits that whites enjoy just for being white, they don't need my resources too. I would much rather take care of a black child because black children are less likely to be adopted and much more in need of stability in this racist, unfriendly society. I also don't think I could relate to a white child. I have a white husband, but taking care of a white child reminds me too much of playing nanny to a lazy white woman's spoiled child.

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