Should I Tell Him Now...Or Just Wait...Or Not Tell Him At All??

[Anonymous]

I recently started seeing this guy and we've been dating for about two months, more or less.

He has told me that he really likes me and wants me to be his girlfriend.

I would like to be exclusive as well, yet have avoided it for one reason.

In my past, I suffered from depression and was prescribed meds. Zoloft and Seroquel.

The meds have alleviated my depression as well as my anxiety and life is much manageable now than it ever has been.

We haven't discussed mental illness, use of medication to treat it, etc. so I do not know how he personally feels about these meds. I know some people have issues with taking medication for depression.

Should I tell him now? Wait? Or just never disclose to him? Thx Everyone. Have an awesome week!~

[Anonymous]

DCUM just spent 3 pages telling you to break-up with this guy in the "Should I stay or Should I go" thread yesterday. It is rare to get a unanimous (not 'anonymous') answer from this forum. You just posted on page 3 of the thread below that you were grateful and saw his behaviors as a deal breaker:

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/30/464853.page

Now you're asking about how to share about your mental illness???
Stop wasting everyone's time.

[Anonymous]

How do you know it's the same poster?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you know it's the same poster?

Np here: my guess is PP is noticing similarities between dating time frame, as well formatting and wording choices in both threads.

[Anonymous]

How is her posting wasting people's time? It's your choice if you read and/or respond. I think you're being too harsh. Just move on.

[Anonymous]

My wife didn't tell me she had similar problems before we got married. Had I known, I probably would not have married her. But I did, and the mental illness came back, and it's a living hell for a partner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you know it's the same poster?

Np here: my guess is PP is noticing similarities between dating time frame, as well formatting and wording choices in both threads.

Yup. Has that same ~

[Anonymous]

Tell him!!

[Anonymous]

I would wait a bit longer. But I would tell him.

[Anonymous]

Tell him. My issues developed over the course of my marriage, and I can see how difficult it is to live with someone with mental health issues. Everybody deserves to know before comitting to a relationship.

[Anonymous]

I would tell him now, especially since you have both expressed having serious feelings for one another.

[Anonymous]

I told DH within a couple of weeks. I didn't need to be with a man who was going to run away from my health issues. I need someone who is going to support me and be understanding. Yeah, it would have sucked if he walked away back then. But if he had, in the long run it would have been better to know sooner rather than later.

[Anonymous]

Given the description of him in the other post he also has mental health issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell him. My issues developed over the course of my marriage, and I can see how difficult it is to live with someone with mental health issues. Everybody deserves to know before comitting to a relationship.

And the other side is also true. You need someone who can support you with future mental health problems. If he's going to be freaked out/unsupportive/not able to deal then he is not the guy for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DCUM just spent 3 pages telling you to break-up with this guy in the "Should I stay or Should I go" thread yesterday. It is rare to get a unanimous (not 'anonymous') answer from this forum. You just posted on page 3 of the thread below that you were grateful and saw his behaviors as a deal breaker:

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/30/464853.page

Now you're asking about how to share about your mental illness???
Stop wasting everyone's time.

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