DCUM Confession

[Anonymous]

I have written intemperate things. Other people have written intemperate things that I let ruin my day, hour, whatever. There have been days when I have posted when I wasn't in the mood to be thoughtful. Yet, at the same time, when I have given a lot of thought to my posts, sometimes I get thanked for them. I have made people choke up. I have made people feel better. I have made people feel relieved. I wish I could take back some of the posts that were not helpful to people. I particularly wish I could take back some of the posts I made when I was on my third glass of wine after hubby said, for the millionth time, that he didn't really care if I divorced him or not, but it's not like anyone else would want me.

Most (not all) of the moms on here are looking for information, not to be the place where I vent my bad day. To all those I have offended or angered, I am sorry. To those who have angered me when I have come here looking for advice and instead getting some random snarky take on my question, I will try to overlook and not engage.

And the very next thing I am going to do is sign up as a member. I will have to think of a cute screen name (but seriously, who could ever top ZumbaMomma?).

[Anonymous]

I for one don't think writing 'intemperate things' is as bad as all that. (As long as you're not writing in bold and all caps, calling people pathetic.) Sorry about your husband.

[Anonymous]

Good for you, OP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have written intemperate things. Other people have written intemperate things that I let ruin my day, hour, whatever. There have been days when I have posted when I wasn't in the mood to be thoughtful. Yet, at the same time, when I have given a lot of thought to my posts, sometimes I get thanked for them. I have made people choke up. I have made people feel better. I have made people feel relieved. I wish I could take back some of the posts that were not helpful to people. I particularly wish I could take back some of the posts I made when I was on my third glass of wine after hubby said, for the millionth time, that he didn't really care if I divorced him or not, but it's not like anyone else would want me.

I'm so sorry, OP. That sounds terribly painful. I hope things get better.

Thanks for your apology. I've been working on trying to be nicer, too. Your post will help me think twice before I hit submit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have written intemperate things. Other people have written intemperate things that I let ruin my day, hour, whatever. There have been days when I have posted when I wasn't in the mood to be thoughtful. Yet, at the same time, when I have given a lot of thought to my posts, sometimes I get thanked for them. I have made people choke up. I have made people feel better. I have made people feel relieved. I wish I could take back some of the posts that were not helpful to people. I particularly wish I could take back some of the posts I made when I was on my third glass of wine after hubby said, for the millionth time, that he didn't really care if I divorced him or not, but it's not like anyone else would want me.

Most (not all) of the moms on here are looking for information, not to be the place where I vent my bad day. To all those I have offended or angered, I am sorry. To those who have angered me when I have come here looking for advice and instead getting some random snarky take on my question, I will try to overlook and not engage.

And the very next thing I am going to do is sign up as a member. I will have to think of a cute screen name (but seriously, who could ever top ZumbaMomma?).

Okay.

[zumbamama]

oh we all need to vent sometimes don't we? I am sorry about the husband situation. I'm sure that would make anyone want to vent.

I too confess for anonymously posting not-so-nice things about the DC Red Cross when the CPR instructor didn't show up one morning and made me miss work for nothing...still never got refunded, but oh well. Don't sweat the small stuff, right?

[Anonymous]

I just want on record that the OP is not Amy. If my husband ever said that to me I wouldn't post on here. I'd punch him in the face as hard as I could and then consider what to do next, and it wouldn't include taking him to the emergency room.

But I guess I regret a few of my posts, also. Only a few.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just want on record that the OP is not Amy. If my husband ever said that to me I wouldn't post on here. I'd punch him in the face as hard as I could and then consider what to do next, and it wouldn't include taking him to the emergency room.

But I guess I regret a few of my posts, also. Only a few.

Who is Amy?

[jsteele]

Anonymous wrote:Who is Amy?

It's so nice that someone has to ask. Hopefully, it will stay that way.

[Anonymous]

I made a new year's resolution to only post 'nicely' because it dawned on me that my sister was very likely on this site, too. She REALLY knows how to push my buttons. I'm sure she could do it anonymously (or in her sleep) but that doesn't mean i want to come down on her like a ton of bricks. I had sort of forgotten about that resolution.

I'm really curious, though, about which posts come off as over the top. Are they only the obvious ones, where someone is called a b*tch or a c**t or pathetic? The ones where people feel sorry for other people's children for having them as moms? If so, I don't post those, but I do get 'snippy' now and then.

[Anonymous]

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who is Amy?

It's so nice that someone has to ask. Hopefully, it will stay that way.

Needless to say, this prompted me to do a search.

Bizarre.

[Anonymous]

Lately, I have found myself getting ready to reply to something in a really snarky way (usually about the Big 3 addiction) and have found myself deleting it. Why spread the bad karma, right?

[Anonymous]

same here, PP. I have probably deleted at least 50 posts, simply because I had nothing nice to say.

[Anonymous]

Another good question to ask before hitting "submit": Do I really know what I'm talking about, or am I just passing along hearsay? I have to admit I still do the latter sometimes, but I try to be clear about the source of my (mis)information.

[Anonymous]

This is a nice post. Sometimes i find myself wondering why I feel I have to be so mean. I never start it -- I never attack someone for asking a question I judge as dumb, or for giving advice I think is bad. But I have done two things:

1. Gotten offended when advice I'm given to a post misses the mark or seems patronizing (aka the "take a deep breath" responses -- I see red)
2. Taken a chunk out of someone for getting rude with me first.

The fact is, the person being so rude is probably just having a bad day. So why make it worse? Still, it's hard not to be a jerk sometimes. That really sucks.