Need advice on prospective fwb strange behavior

[Anonymous]

I am new to the area and looking to experiment while being single. I joined a hookup site last weekend and started chatting with this hot guy. He told me the next that he lived about 40 minutes away and could only meet on weekends. I was cool with that. He initially agreed we should be exclusive for health reasons. Then changed his mind saying he wants the option to hook up with others. I said I didn't like the flip flopping and I am for health reasons, I don't want him to fucking everyone under the sun. He said he was willing to do exclusivity then.

I texted Monday evening to ask when to meet and we chatted for like 20 minutes via text. I didn't reach out again but he sent a pic to me on Thursday and tried initiating conversation but I was too busy to respond. I emailed yesterday morning asking if he was still up for this. I told him how I met another guy and I wanted to meet soon so I can make a decision. He seemed pissed and asked if I hooked up with him.

Hours later he drunkenly texts. He tells me how I am asking for too much ( exclusivity) and I'm coming on strong. How he decided this wouldn't work. Now I am a little annoyed because he agreed to exclusivity and I have been pretty low-key with not asking much. I feel like I am being strung along and wasting time because he won't meet me. After a few hours he tells me he wants this but only if there is no exclusivity.

I am a little confused by all this. This was my first attempt at casual and it's not going too well. What is going on with this dude changing his mind, asking if I fucked anyone else, and then saying I'm coming on too strong. I need outsiders opinions.

[Anonymous]

Here's an outside opinion: don't screw around with total strangers. It's pathetic, gross and dangerous.

[Anonymous]

Google about the guy who picked up chicks at a bar in Bethesda. He looked "normal" but was HIV positive. Be careful out there.

[Anonymous]

You can't ask anyone for exclusivity before you've even met. It's not impossible to find an exclusive fwb, but your audience on the hookup site might not be tripping all over themselves for that.
Fwb's should be easy. You are trying to put too much structure around it.

[Anonymous]

You're making it too much work

[Anonymous]

For health reasons you shouldn't be looking for a FWB on the internet. Or at all.

[Anonymous]

Op Here. I told him i was cool either way and he was the one who brought up the exclusivity thing, not me.

[Anonymous]

Too many stories lately of people spreading disease this way.
Not a good idea imo.
The other thing is meeting a stranger for this just seems like the prelude to an episode of 48 hours missing or something.

If you want exclusivity get a relationship.
If you don't want a relationship get some porn and buy some amazing toys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op Here. I told him i was cool either way and he was the one who brought up the exclusivity thing, not me.

Um that is completely opposite of what you just said in your first post...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op Here. I told him i was cool either way and he was the one who brought up the exclusivity thing, not me.

Um that is completely opposite of what you just said in your first post...

+1
Right. 'He agreed' to exclusivity sounds like you brought it up first OP, not him. Not to mention everything you said after that.

[Anonymous]

.....but you have only exchanged text messages. Never spoken, never met.

You could be talking to
1. A high school aged boy
2. A felon living in his uncles basement
3. A woman
4. See number 2 and think about that for a minute longer

You need to stop this right away before you get yourself into a dangerous situation. What are you thinking?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:.....but you have only exchanged text messages. Never spoken, never met.

You could be talking to
1. A high school aged boy
2. A felon living in his uncles basement
3. A woman
4. See number 2 and think about that for a minute longer

You need to stop this right away before you get yourself into a dangerous situation. What are you thinking?

We have spoken on the phone 3 times already. Once was like 2 hours. He definitely brought up exclusivity first. I was unsure and then said cool so we both agreed to that. He wrote me this morning and saying that he wants me mostly but if the opportunity arises then he can do what he wants. Personally he wants me to himself to own my P.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:.....but you have only exchanged text messages. Never spoken, never met.

You could be talking to
1. A high school aged boy
2. A felon living in his uncles basement
3. A woman
4. See number 2 and think about that for a minute longer

You need to stop this right away before you get yourself into a dangerous situation. What are you thinking?

Given OP's inability to keep her facts straight my guess is that OP is #2!

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure why you think fwb's need all of this orchestration. You can meet a guy in person, go out for drinks and lay out your 'no strings/casual' preferences then. At least you will know who you are talking to, if you have any chemistry, etc. How can you make plans to sleep with someone when you don't even know what they look like (people post old/doctored pics all the time)?

[Anonymous]

This is a f-ing dangerous proposition.
Are you nuts??