I don't want my kid to be the only white student . . .

[Anonymous]

My DD was the only white girl in her pk3 and pk4 class in DCPS. She played with the boys (black and white) because the black girls were not very nice to her. I didn't think it was that big of a deal until we were out on the playground after school and I heard two of the black mothers discussing my child's hair with their girls. It was really mean and then it all made sense!

We moved on to a new school which is very mixed and the children and parents are great. I do think being the only of anything is tough. No permanent scars though in our case.

[Anonymous]

By the way, I wish your daughter lots of luck at her new school.

You're right, PP. Your post makes me think about the all-AA teaching staff and K+ voting out all the white officers of the new PTA at Payne ES on Capitol Hill almost a year ago. The PTA has only been up and running for a year at the time. The group was rolling with white and biracial leadership, parents of kids in the first racially diverse PreS3 group, which AA stakeholders so resented that they staged a take-over. The PTA hasn't met since, and every former white officer will be gone by the summer (no whites staying for K, let alone elementary grades). The school remains almost entirely AA (a touch Latino) above PreK4, and failing, with awful test scores. So darn depressing, and predictable.

I've heard the Payne PTA story before, just pathetic. Payne is clearly going nowhere beyond preschool, while the fleeing white PTA parents and their children certainly are. Shame on DCPS - close Payne, it's 70% OOB and a mess despite a principal with a pulse.

[Anonymous]

I am having a mixed child. I don't want her at a school with too many white people. I am white. A white school as a black person...no way! The little white girl who got told to get her white ass of the playground just needs to say no I am staying and your going to play with me and all the little black kids will accept her and she will become one with them. The white kids will NEVER accept the black kid - EVER! EVER EVER EVER! EVER!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am having a mixed child. I don't want her at a school with too many white people. I am white. A white school as a black person...no way! The little white girl who got told to get her white ass of the playground just needs to say no I am staying and your going to play with me and all the little black kids will accept her and she will become one with them. The white kids will NEVER accept the black kid - EVER! EVER EVER EVER! EVER!

EVER...if you think I am delusional...you are probably white and clueless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am having a mixed child. I don't want her at a school with too many white people. I am white. A white school as a black person...no way! The little white girl who got told to get her white ass of the playground just needs to say no I am staying and your going to play with me and all the little black kids will accept her and she will become one with them. The white kids will NEVER accept the black kid - EVER! EVER EVER EVER! EVER!

EVER...if you think I am delusional...you are probably white and clueless.

Well, I won't say you are delusional, but I'm having trouble following your logic since you claim to be white and having a biracial child. So you hopefully did accept a black man....?

[Anonymous]

Yes it is as confusing as EVER.

[Anonymous]

We had a difficult time at a popular charter because of race. Lots of whites and AA but no true mixing. The white families do not include non-whites in many of their social events. They don't even think there is something wrong with it.

[Anonymous]

Did the non-whites include the whites in their socializing?

[Anonymous]

Whoa what is the story with Payne?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did the non-whites include the whites in their socializing?

Sometimes. Not a whole lot of mixing from either side.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid was the only white student in her class last year. We blithely assumed she would be fine, because kids are color blind, right? She ate alone every day. She told me (and the teacher confirmed) that she tried to join the other children at recess but was rebuffed. More than once, she came home crying because another elementary school child told her to take her "white ass" and get lost. (Well, the first time, she asked me what "ass" meant, because she had never heard it before.) We stuck it out through the rest of the year, but changed schools this past fall. Her new classroom has a good mix of kids, and a great inclusive vibe; she has many friends in her class, not just white kids. Any kind of homogeny is bad for the "only".

But you might not be aware of that tendency, because there are lots of stupid bitches around, so you've always been in good company.

I disagree that any kind of homogeny is bad for the only. Frankly, I think being the only black kid at an otherwise all-white schools is probably easier, since no white child would dare tell a black child to "take your black ass and get lost." White children, frankly, do not speak that way.

No, white kids don't speak that way. They just call you a nigger and keep it moving. Trust me, I got called quite a few growing up. If your kid has never heard the word ass before and she goes to ANY school, you live in a bubble.

This!! Though I made friends and things improved with time, I was call a nigger (and other things) more than I care to remember. Hated being the ONLY one.

[Anonymous]

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You're right, PP. Your post makes me think about the all-AA teaching staff and K+ voting out all the white officers of the new PTA at Payne ES on Capitol Hill almost a year ago. The PTA has only been up and running for a year at the time. The group was rolling with white and biracial leadership, parents of kids in the first racially diverse PreS3 group, which AA stakeholders so resented that they staged a take-over. The PTA hasn't met since, and every former white officer will be gone by the summer (no whites staying for K, let alone elementary grades). The school remains almost entirely AA (a touch Latino) above PreK4, and failing, with awful test scores. So darn depressing, and predictable.

Wow, there are so many problems with your post. A group of parents join a school, and even though they only have kids at one grade level, they stage a take over of the PTA. They describe a parent organization that only serves 1/8 of the grades in the school as "rolling". These same parents clearly don't value the students currently in the school, given that they refer to the demographic in the older grades as "darn depressing". They seem to think that raising test scores, not by actually helping students, or serving them better, but by swapping out kids for demographics more likely to succeed is the same thing as "improving" the school.

When the parents of kids in the older grades, as well as the teachers who love and serve them, respond by trying to take on leadership roles in the program they are described as staging a "take-over" and accused of racism. The irony is enormous. Thank god the racist white parents left!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid was the only white student in her class last year. We blithely assumed she would be fine, because kids are color blind, right? She ate alone every day. She told me (and the teacher confirmed) that she tried to join the other children at recess but was rebuffed. More than once, she came home crying because another elementary school child told her to take her "white ass" and get lost. (Well, the first time, she asked me what "ass" meant, because she had never heard it before.) We stuck it out through the rest of the year, but changed schools this past fall. Her new classroom has a good mix of kids, and a great inclusive vibe; she has many friends in her class, not just white kids. Any kind of homogeny is bad for the "only".

But you might not be aware of that tendency, because there are lots of stupid bitches around, so you've always been in good company.

I disagree that any kind of homogeny is bad for the only. Frankly, I think being the only black kid at an otherwise all-white schools is probably easier, since no white child would dare tell a black child to "take your black ass and get lost." White children, frankly, do not speak that way.

White children in DC don't, maybe, but there's a whoooole lot of 'em in the rest of the country that do.

But this is DCUM and we're talking about DC, not the rest of the country. And, honestly, except for some locales, I cannot think of a single place where a white child would speak like that.

LOL! Oh please do tell how it is to live in your bubble! It sounds like a wonderful, magical place! Thanks for this. I needed a laugh today

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid was the only white student in her class last year. We blithely assumed she would be fine, because kids are color blind, right? She ate alone every day. She told me (and the teacher confirmed) that she tried to join the other children at recess but was rebuffed. More than once, she came home crying because another elementary school child told her to take her "white ass" and get lost. (Well, the first time, she asked me what "ass" meant, because she had never heard it before.) We stuck it out through the rest of the year, but changed schools this past fall. Her new classroom has a good mix of kids, and a great inclusive vibe; she has many friends in her class, not just white kids. Any kind of homogeny is bad for the "only".

But you might not be aware of that tendency, because there are lots of stupid bitches around, so you've always been in good company.

I disagree that any kind of homogeny is bad for the only. Frankly, I think being the only black kid at an otherwise all-white schools is probably easier, since no white child would dare tell a black child to "take your black ass and get lost." White children, frankly, do not speak that way.

You are so ridiculously ignorant, I am almost speechless, and I'm rarely speechless. You have obviously never been the only black child anywhere. As someone who is black and has often been the only black child in several settings (including private schools and G&T public), I can ASSURE you that there are MULTITUDES of white children who say "black ass" and, even more disturbing in my opinion, "n****r ass" in predominantly white school settings.

You're probably a troll and just said that to get a rise out of people, but in case you truly, actually think white children don't know how to speak that way, just wanted to address that gross misconception from what is probably an array of misconceptions you possess.

+1. Thank you. Biracial mom with a multi racial kid. We live in W3 and hear pretty foul language on a regular basis at neighborhood parks. Just Saturday a 5 yr old said "holy shit", the 5-6 year olds around him all laughed and had obviously heard the word before (incl my kid). Kids hear these words, even if not in the home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

You're right, PP. Your post makes me think about the all-AA teaching staff and K+ voting out all the white officers of the new PTA at Payne ES on Capitol Hill almost a year ago. The PTA has only been up and running for a year at the time. The group was rolling with white and biracial leadership, parents of kids in the first racially diverse PreS3 group, which AA stakeholders so resented that they staged a take-over. The PTA hasn't met since, and every former white officer will be gone by the summer (no whites staying for K, let alone elementary grades). The school remains almost entirely AA (a touch Latino) above PreK4, and failing, with awful test scores. So darn depressing, and predictable.

Wow, there are so many problems with your post. A group of parents join a school, and even though they only have kids at one grade level, they stage a take over of the PTA. They describe a parent organization that only serves 1/8 of the grades in the school as "rolling". These same parents clearly don't value the students currently in the school, given that they refer to the demographic in the older grades as "darn depressing". They seem to think that raising test scores, not by actually helping students, or serving them better, but by swapping out kids for demographics more likely to succeed is the same thing as "improving" the school.

When the parents of kids in the older grades, as well as the teachers who love and serve them, respond by trying to take on leadership roles in the program they are described as staging a "take-over" and accused of racism. The irony is enormous. Thank god the racist white parents left!

But apparently the PTA is no longer functioning and does not meet. So how has this AA coup helped the school exactly?