37 year old woman: any hope for love?

[Anonymous]

Love - no

Companionship - yes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I don’t have faith in myself anymore as I picked wrong the first time and did not have the wisdom to leave earlier. I also was chosen by someone who had issues. Not exactly a great catch!

How am I supposed to make the right decision as now I’m over the hill, bio clock ticking and traumatized?

A good therapist can help you with all of this. The sooner you start, the sooner you can begin to heal and move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I don’t have faith in myself anymore as I picked wrong the first time and did not have the wisdom to leave earlier. I also was chosen by someone who had issues. Not exactly a great catch!

How am I supposed to make the right decision as now I’m over the hill, bio clock ticking and traumatized?

A good therapist can help you with all of this. The sooner you start, the sooner you can begin to heal and move on.

Maybe I’m jaded, but from the Indian American women I’ve known, I would prescribe therapy as a high school diploma prerequisite. I dunno, something about the difference in culture between what’s at home and what’s out there in America is just too much for most of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I don’t have faith in myself anymore as I picked wrong the first time and did not have the wisdom to leave earlier. I also was chosen by someone who had issues. Not exactly a great catch!

How am I supposed to make the right decision as now I’m over the hill, bio clock ticking and traumatized?

A good therapist can help you with all of this. The sooner you start, the sooner you can begin to heal and move on.

Maybe I’m jaded, but from the Indian American women I’ve known, I would prescribe therapy as a high school diploma prerequisite. I dunno, something about the difference in culture between what’s at home and what’s out there in America is just too much for most of them.

But the men all seem to do great.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If OP is thin and Indian, she is probably an 8 or 9, not a 6.

+1.Indian women are gorgeous.

A big percentage is though colonialism and Hollywood dictated otherwise by making white beauty a universal standard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a slender Indian woman who is recently divorced. I do not have children as my husband had addiction issues and due to my cultural background I regrettably spent too long trying to make the marriage work.

I am quite attractive; maybe a 6 on the looks scale. Slender, well groomed and dress in classic clothing. I’m so sad and embarrassed to be single again and with no children even to show for it!

I fear all the good men are taken and no one will want me. I am open to men of all ethnicities.

A 6 is very average. You're probably more attractive than that.

I love South Asian women. They are usually educated and pretty. Their brown skin and long hair look great. They are usually slender.

The sexiest woman I know is a late 40s Indian woman. She gets approached by high status and younger guys all the time.

[Anonymous]

You will be just fine, OP. I was you a couple of years ago, and I met someone amazing. In Indian culture 37 is rather old, but not at all in a big American city, so you are plenty eligible.

When I was single, I decided to view dating as my new hobby and went on a date once a week. It's a numbers game so you do need to meet a fair amount of people to find the right person for you. Just wear clothes that truly show and flatter your figure, and you will have many options from which to choose. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

I agree that you’ll fare better than most of my single friends that age. You aren’t restricting yourself to one race so that’s good and you do not seem as picky as most never marrieds. You also seem like you divorced for a reason most people would understand plus you have no kids (so no custody issues and no contact with ex) which also puts you in a better place than most divorced folks.

[Anonymous]

This is OP. I grew up in a traditional household where I was not allowed to date. In college I secretly started dating my white husband so he’s the only man I’ve been with.

I’m so scared to date! I spent all my life with him and he’s all I know. How would I even know what’s a good guy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. I grew up in a traditional household where I was not allowed to date. In college I secretly started dating my white husband so he’s the only man I’ve been with.

I’m so scared to date! I spent all my life with him and he’s all I know. How would I even know what’s a good guy?

Are your parents saying “I told you so”?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you’re Indian can you go back in the matchmaker pool? I think you will have lots of options. You’re still young enough to have kids.

I’m also divorcing but mid-40s with kids, I’m worried that will be even tougher.

If you mean within the indian diaspora, not at 37 with an out-marriage under the belt already

That process is designed for a different market — not the one op is in

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. I grew up in a traditional household where I was not allowed to date. In college I secretly started dating my white husband so he’s the only man I’ve been with.

I’m so scared to date! I spent all my life with him and he’s all I know. How would I even know what’s a good guy?

What you need is a wise, older male mentor who will advise you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If OP is thin and Indian, she is probably an 8 or 9, not a 6.

+1.Indian women are gorgeous.

A big percentage is though colonialism and Hollywood dictated otherwise by making white beauty a universal standard.

This is the way

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. I grew up in a traditional household where I was not allowed to date. In college I secretly started dating my white husband so he’s the only man I’ve been with.

I’m so scared to date! I spent all my life with him and he’s all I know. How would I even know what’s a good guy?

Google. Loveisrespect.org is a good website about dating and relationships. Also thehotline.org, for what you don’t want.

Go to a library and/or bookstore and take a look at the self-help section. There are many, many books on dating, relationships, marriage.

Some therapy can also help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a slender Indian woman who is recently divorced. I do not have children as my husband had addiction issues and due to my cultural background I regrettably spent too long trying to make the marriage work.

I am quite attractive; maybe a 6 on the looks scale. Slender, well groomed and dress in classic clothing. I’m so sad and embarrassed to be single again and with no children even to show for it!

I fear all the good men are taken and no one will want me. I am open to men of all ethnicities.

A 6 is very average. You're probably more attractive than that.

I love South Asian women. They are usually educated and pretty. Their brown skin and long hair look great. They are usually slender.

The sexiest woman I know is a late 40s Indian woman. She gets approached by high status and younger guys all the time.

Wut. U r watching too much Bollywood, the average Indian woman isn't slender, Indian food is very rich and heavy