People who congratulate their kids on social media, like Facebook, but their kids aren't on it

[Anonymous]

It doesn’t bother me at all. I occasionally post about DS’ accomplishments, but not to him, but it doesn’t bother me to see other people do so.

[Anonymous]

I see both sides.

I just survived cancer and my dad died, so I think it's crazy if someone begrudges me celebrating my kid's win. (I hardly ever do this, but theoretically) And it's a great way to inform family and good friends who don't live close.

But if you are raving about your kid on their birthday or something, yeah, you could be hurting the friend who was never able to have a child and make them thinking about all the moments they don't get to have. That's on them though.

I recently saw an acquaintance take her kids to Japan where they had an amazing time. I can't manage a road trip with my kids rn for various reasons, and yeah it made me feel kind of crappy. That's on me though.

You have to set limits for your mental health if this stuff bothers you. But this is why I don't post much-- even if it's good news for me, I don't want others to feel hurt.

[Anonymous]

It's very 2015. Cringey now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:While I don't do this, I don't think there is anything wrong with it. It's an easy way to let relatives and friends know about children's accomplishments. I like reading about what is going on with other people's children. I congratulate the parent and move on

That’s what healthy, happy people do.

Seriously - what else are people going to post on FB if not good news? I wouldn’t overdo achievement posts but gosh, I feel happy for my friends and glad to learn a little about their kids’ lives. Like anything, it can be overdone. But if you’re not happy for them, time for some self examination.

[Anonymous]

Why do they do it?

1. It is an efficient way to let people who care know about it.
2. It creates a timeline/memory.
3. It puts something positive into the world.
4. They are proud and want to share what they are proud about.

My question is why anybody is even scrolling social media if they don't want to see these things from connections. Unless we are talking about LinkedIn, what other type of content are you trying to see? A picture of people's food? Sincerely, would you rather have a feed full of advertisements and "influencing"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Why do they do it?

1. It is an efficient way to let people who care know about it.
2. It creates a timeline/memory.
3. It puts something positive into the world.
4. They are proud and want to share what they are proud about.

My question is why anybody is even scrolling social media if they don't want to see these things from connections. Unless we are talking about LinkedIn, what other type of content are you trying to see? A picture of people's food? Sincerely, would you rather have a feed full of advertisements and "influencing"?

People seem to misunderstand the OP. It’s not about posting an update. It’s about posting as though you are speaking to someone who will not see your message.