The topic in the title is valid. there needs to be some primer for new parents on where to even start. When I was young, you just joined the local rec leagues then in high school that’s kind of where the good athletes separated.
Now it’s so damn complicated with multiple local rec leagues, travel teams, private teams, private coaching - like wth changed? |
Money. Money was available and organizations pounced. That said, it's still not that complicated. Ask your neighbors what the good leagues in your area are. Talk about it with parents at school. Sign your kids up to play things with friends. It shakes out from there. |
You are talking about exposure and enrichment. I was responding about intensive pushing and hyper investment in "elite" activities at 6 and 7. I had the same childhood as you (38). My kid receives nothing beyond TV and Chromebook while at school. He has 0 video games and 0 personal devices. You are the access to screens. And yes sports are easier, but I also roll my eyes at parents who are dropping off Kindergarteners at practice. Its also not all or nothing. They can do rec soccer 2 practices a week and then do the playground 2 times a week. |
Rec soccer is 2 hours a week. I think you’re being dismissive of the tremendous amount of time you need to soak up in the course of a year. I was grateful for all of the travel sports my kids did - it kept them active, they made great friends and as a bonus they were competitive in highschool. I think what you are saying is that you don’t like the attitude that some parents have. I get that. But here’s the solution- don’t have that attitude. |
If they dominate Rec at 6 or 7, you have them play up a year. And then you move them to a Select/Classic team. You avoid Travel until your kid is begging for it! |
DP and I agree with the PP you are responding to - you are the access to screens. If you want your kid playing in the yard, send them out into the yard. Is it roaming the neighborhood in packs 1970s style? No, but it's also not screens. |
We will agree to disagree that travel sports are the only option for "filling the year" and making kids competitive. My attitude is about other parents suggesting that a 6-year-old cant do winter basketball because they should work on their skills during winter in a skills camp. It is counter to every single thing that elite athletes, elite coaches, and scientific research has shown is appropriate for their age and future. |
The kids who are really good do often start early. Not all the kids who start early will be good. You don’t need to put your kid in some intense training at age 6-7. If you start training more than once per week in middle school, that is probably too late. You will know if your kid is talented.
I have a friend who really wanted her kids to be elite athletes. She started them so early, always taking them to tryouts. The kids are athletic but didn’t have the heart. No amount of pushing by an aggressive parent will make the kid a great athlete. And just because your kid has the heart and effort doesn’t necessarily mean the kid will be an elite athlete either. It is a mix of genetics, passion, grit and parent support. |
I have an 8-year-old who loves soccer and is pretty good. But OP - we are sticking with rec. With fulltime work and other children - I just can’t facilitate travel and stay sane. Their school also lets out very late, so even one evening practice a week is challenging.
My kid is on a team fall and spring, plus seems to play daily at recess. To me, that’s a lot of soccer. In speaking with other parents, it’s possible to transition to travel in middle school. I would consider that if they are interested. |
While partly true, I do think one big reason for the change is the internet. Before, only UMC, wealthy, and connected people had access to the info of what made their kids so much better than the middle and working class. There’s no going back to the bad old days of when only the privileged knew how to help their kids. |
Time and money. Lots of it. I have a friend whose son plays football. I swear he’s playing it right now and it’s not even in-season. She’s considering sending him to a “host family” all school year next year, because it’s close to a a former NFL player who coaches kids. They are always out of town, always spending money, always playing football.
I have only a few years left until we see if this lands him on a big college team. |
People in this area and in general are just insane about sports. It's like a religion.
I am convinced a lot of travel league is just one big cash grab scam. |
This post comes off as very judgmental. Times have changed. As your kids get older, you will understand. |
It is not just this area. |
Agree. But if you click down on parent support there have been studies on elite and pre-elite athletes that show they are far more likely to have parents were elite or pre-elite athletes. These studies posit it is not just genes it also the fact that parents who were pre-elite or elite athletes can better understand how to support their children emotionally and navigate the rec-travel etc landscape. That said, as PP wrote: kids can only get so far based on parental support. |