Brewster is a disaster - AVOID. They've had terrible teacher turnover in the past few years. Unhappy teachers = unhappy school. |
Interesting. I hadn’t thought very hard yet about the uni process. He’s 13 and still discovering interests. I would prefer Australia because it is much, much more affordable and our family will return home eventually. But we will likely let him chart his own course. I wouldn’t rule out the US if he decides that is what he wants. Are you suggesting the bigger schools generally have more pressure or less? The idea of a wider social circle is appealing and we love that great schools in the US are coed. Much healthier for all. I would think the university pressure in big schools would hamper relationships as (correct me if I misunderstand) the kids are competing directly with their classmates? I just looked up entry to UNSW and U Sydney if coming from the US. Looks like a 1400+ SAT would put him in the ballpark, depending on the course. That would take some pressure away. Can’t imagine his classmates would be dying to go. Lol. What do you think is an ideal size for a boarding school? There seems to be a huge variation. |
Mom with 2 kids who graduated boarding schools here. I'd suggest you be wary of advice from anyone who hasn't sent their kids to boarding schools (or been themselves) in the last 10 yrs. I've seen a bit of misinformation about boarding schools on these threads, most of it unintentional but a lot of it just malicious. FWIW I posted earlier in your thread (recommended Deerfield). Unfortunately, the need for crew limits your choices quite a bit. Does it have to be a varsity sport? There is no ideal size other than the one that suits you best. There are advantages all around in different ways. Ask about the percentage of international students at every school, and then specifically for a country breakdown. This is important because China in particular is flooding (or trying) the US Boarding schools, and most of the schools have a cut off. If the numbers or percentage is very high, it makes for a very different experience since the Chinese students really (understandably, but still) stick together. Both of my kids (and the kids of friends) have found that to be the case at every school. I know someone is going to call me a racist for mentioning this to you but it's true. An admissions officer at one of the HADES told me they could fill the entire school with kids from China if they wanted to--all full pay and sky high stats. They are interviewed and screened by AOs in China before they can even come here for tours/admissions process. Anyway.... My kids did not like Exeter due to its size, it's quite large and feels like a college rather than a boarding school/high school. It's a fantastic school though. You really have to try to visit them to see. If you have specific questions I can try to help. Schools I have been to or my kids attended: Deerfield, Groton, Northfield Mt Herman, Governor's Academy, St.George's, Tabor, Taft, Brooks, Holderness, Exeter, Choate. |
Anecdotes are not data. Like attracts like.... |
Some people of every nationality/culture can be humorless. I don't think that's a very American trait. --Brit |
You mean affordable for college? What about after college? Housing costs are much higher and white collar wages are much lower. |
Deerfield mum of 2: Thank you for your insight. The same phenomenon is playing out at boarding schools here. The self segregation is real and impacts community. Our son’s city day/boarding school has just put a 2-yr circuit breaker pause on the pipeline while they create a strategy to address better integration. The school requires all Year 9 boys to live at their bush campus and it has a rigorous physical/outdoor ed/teambuilding curriculum for five months. This is where the mismatch was insanely apparent. My son will attend this and finish in June, then head to the US to start Year 9 from scratch (seasonal misalignment). Would love to find a cultural melting pot with real integration.
Wouldn’t all rowing be varsity? He would love a competitive program with enough kids who take it seriously that a few boats can race each other during practices. He’s just really into it and needs 7+ 1 other guys to make it happen. And we would love easy/on campus river access. Not excited about being bussed to the boatshed if it can be avoided. I think Exeter sounds too big? Current school is 225 per Year. It’s working okay for him, but can feel a little too big. St. Andrew’s looks great but might be small? Definitely applying anyhow. Of the schools you mentioned, are any a bit more relaxed? He’s a very solid student with solid mental health to match. I feel protective of all kids’ mental health these days. I guess what I am looking for is high personal standards but not high collective pressure. To each his own with regards to how success is defined. What questions do you suggest I ask to get a real sense of culture? On You Tube, they all make similar claims. No surprise. I would love to know what features of Deerfield you think are standout. And they all have low admission rates. He might need to apply to multiple and the choice gets made for us? So casting a wide net. |
You mean affordable for college? What about after college? Housing costs are much higher and white collar wages are much lower. Yes, that is what I meant. And you know about our crazy housing prices! Not fun. Your question is a good one. Wouldn’t a degree from an outstanding university in Australia be recognized in the US for work? Pretty sure I don’t have a doctor on my hands, so that’s not an issue. But I won’t rule out options based on cost alone. Our best unis are more accessible (they grew and created more places while remaining very selective) and there is a lot less hysteria around admissions. At the very least, having this option in the back pocket should allow him to tune some of that noise out. I suppose if he wants to pursue a career in the US, he will have to figure that out and forge his own path. Culturally, we tend to back off a bit after 18, and definitely after university. They want it? Go get it. I’m okay with that. |
No Prep is wonderful and a large international population that is supported and valued. |
A “true” boarding school experience has at least 80% of their student body enrolled as boarders. STA and Prep don’t fit the bill. It’s a very different culture with a large number of day students and the boarders being mostly international students, many from Asia. I have kids at one of these local schools in addition to a boarding school with 100% boarders. |
If your child spends all 4 years of high school in the U.S., he might feel a step apart from Australians if and when he goes back. He will have lost some of his Australian accent and more importantly a big part of his culture. I don't get why bring him to a boarding school all 4 years here when he can stay in Australia? |
Maybe they don’t want their teenage child to be 14 or so hours time difference and 24 hours or so on a plane away from them? |
Well, we love him and want to spend time with him, for starters. We had lengthy conversations and asked him what he wanted, and boarding in the same region that we are living was the answer.
As for a cultural shift, we like that. What a lucky child to get to live in a different country and expand his perspective! |
SG for sure doesn't have a rowing program and I would not categorize the students as nice or pleasant in comparison to other boarding schools. I'd recommend narrowing down to the rowing schools and just going to visit the campuses and see what feel you get. |
Have him do day school and live in house with you. |