family member got evicted

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Times are very tough for people. Inflation is very hard in the poor and middle class. This is not something to be ashamed or or embarrassed about or feel alone. these are extraordinary times when people facing 30% higher food bills suddenly and so have to choose between rent and food. The best we can do is be a bulwark for our family and friends to help them get through.

My parents were foreclosed on in the eighties mostly due to medical bills. My dads siblings each came up with thousands for a modest down payment and one sibling co-signed a mortgage so we had a place to live. It is families that come through in these times. My siblings and I ended up in in good careers with college scholarships. We know how important family is. Thanks to you they will likely be ok.

The money that they spent to provide the down payment could have been used to forestall foreclosure while your parents sold the house, maintained their credit rating and retained whatever equity they had. Usually people have a number of months to realize that they can't afford their current housing...

My parent foreclosed as part of a bankruptcy filing. They had a sudden job loss and the unexpected medical bills left them unable to pay. The bankruptcy judge let them keep their cars (essential for working) at the expense of their townhouse equity. They did the best they could under difficult circumstances. It’s very difficult to get housing after a bankruptcy as your credit is shot. As I said we were extremely lucky to have extended family support. We all want to think that this situation could not happen to us but I know my parents were not greedy or foolish. Things got out of hand quickly with a sudden job loss and unexpected medical bills. I see a lot of people falling through these gaps right now that were like my parents-solidly middle class but two setbacks away from financial bottom. I hope things don’t get worse wrt inflation because a recession will expose many more families.

[Anonymous]

Yes, SIL got evicted from her former apartment.

Her mother co-signed her for the new apartment, which she is now also being evicted from.

No personal feelings on my part, except for making sure DH knows she will never move in with us, nor will we be helping her financially.

She refuses to work and is just sitting around waiting for her inheritance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Poor landlord. To get evicted you have to not pay rent for months at least.

Yeah, that's not who I am worried about right now.

Of course.its not. Leech.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Evictions are only going to go up and up and so are foreclosures. The people on this forum are going to be shocked. There’s also the case of financial abuse. Spouse doesn’t tell his wife that they are in foreclosure until the sheriff shows up. Murder suicides are almost always linked to foreclosures that aren’t shared. It’s ugly

The landlord has a legal obligation to inform all parties on the lease at multiple steps throughout the eviction process. It has to be verified received by all for the judge to even hear the landlord’s case.

Foreclosures are not increasing. Look at the data instead of internet fearmongering.

Done and done

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Poor landlord. To get evicted you have to not pay rent for months at least.

Yeah, that's not who I am worried about right now.

Of course.its not. Leech.

That private landlord should be more responsible and not depend on the rental as an income to make ends meet. Hmmmm, I guess that argument only makes sense to you if you the victim is poor, huh?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Times are very tough for people. Inflation is very hard in the poor and middle class. This is not something to be ashamed or or embarrassed about or feel alone. these are extraordinary times when people facing 30% higher food bills suddenly and so have to choose between rent and food. The best we can do is be a bulwark for our family and friends to help them get through.

My parents were foreclosed on in the eighties mostly due to medical bills. My dads siblings each came up with thousands for a modest down payment and one sibling co-signed a mortgage so we had a place to live. It is families that come through in these times. My siblings and I ended up in in good careers with college scholarships. We know how important family is. Thanks to you they will likely be ok.

The money that they spent to provide the down payment could have been used to forestall foreclosure while your parents sold the house, maintained their credit rating and retained whatever equity they had. Usually people have a number of months to realize that they can't afford their current housing...

My parent foreclosed as part of a bankruptcy filing. They had a sudden job loss and the unexpected medical bills left them unable to pay. The bankruptcy judge let them keep their cars (essential for working) at the expense of their townhouse equity. They did the best they could under difficult circumstances. It’s very difficult to get housing after a bankruptcy as your credit is shot. As I said we were extremely lucky to have extended family support. We all want to think that this situation could not happen to us but I know my parents were not greedy or foolish. Things got out of hand quickly with a sudden job loss and unexpected medical bills. I see a lot of people falling through these gaps right now that were like my parents-solidly middle class but two setbacks away from financial bottom. I hope things don’t get worse wrt inflation because a recession will expose many more families.

I"m glad this was your outcome. I think what is key in your situation is that your parents acted on things immediately once they were going bad. In my family's case (i'm not OP), they just kept pretending it wouldn't happen to them and weren't making any plans. Things could have been different if they accepted and reached out. Their house was in a high demand area----it could have been different, but they were hellbent on pretending they were living this glorious life. Most people in their situation don't have such assets at their disposal

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any poster who does not understand OP just you wait. Evictions and foreclosures are only going up, and not even wealthy suburbs are immune. It will happen to someone you know eventually

Amen.
Sometimes a loving word or financial help means the world to someone less fortunate.
You help stand someone up not tear them down. The eviction is done so backtracking means nothing. Being homeless hurts everyone. Especially if there are children involved.

Family is everything. Doesn't seem like you mean people understand that. Lot of selfishness on this forum.
It's ugly.

Why don’t you take in OP’s relative?

You are dumb

Put your money where your mouth is. Looks like you just feel entitled mooch.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Poor you, time to help your family and stop wallowing in your own feelings about it

Who says I"m not helping? That's why I am coming to an anonymous board and not sharing with my family members.

What happened?

Why didn’t you or anyone else in your family step up to help before the eviction?

Where is your family member living now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Poor landlord. To get evicted you have to not pay rent for months at least.

Yeah, that's not who I am worried about right now.

Of course.its not. Leech.

That private landlord should be more responsible and not depend on the rental as an income to make ends meet. Hmmmm, I guess that argument only makes sense to you if you the victim is poor, huh?

That post is silly. We had a duplex that we lived in and the rental income helped with the expenses. If they didn't pay the rent one of us would have had to work 2 jobs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Poor landlord. To get evicted you have to not pay rent for months at least.

Yeah, that's not who I am worried about right now.

Of course.its not. Leech.

That private landlord should be more responsible and not depend on the rental as an income to make ends meet. Hmmmm, I guess that argument only makes sense to you if you the victim is poor, huh?

That post is silly. We had a duplex that we lived in and the rental income helped with the expenses. If they didn't pay the rent one of us would have had to work 2 jobs.

Or you could live somewhere cheaper. Cut cable, Idk, stop posting on DCUM and get that second job

[Anonymous]

If you've never witnessed an eviction, then you have been spared that level of trauma. Similar to what people may experience if they witness violence or a car accident. Talk to a therapist OP.

The rest of you, I'd say talk to a therapist as well--some of you are really lacking in the empathy department

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Poor landlord. To get evicted you have to not pay rent for months at least.

Yeah, that's not who I am worried about right now.

Of course.its not. Leech.

That private landlord should be more responsible and not depend on the rental as an income to make ends meet. Hmmmm, I guess that argument only makes sense to you if you the victim is poor, huh?

That post is silly. We had a duplex that we lived in and the rental income helped with the expenses. If they didn't pay the rent one of us would have had to work 2 jobs.

Or you could live somewhere cheaper. Cut cable, Idk, stop posting on DCUM and get that second job

Wait. You are telling a poster they should sell a duplex they live in where the tenant isn't paying the rent! And the owner should work at least 1 second job so the unrelated tenant can live there.

M duplex was pretty cheap. That was decades ago when people like the PP didn't expect free stuff like housing from people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Poor landlord. To get evicted you have to not pay rent for months at least.

Yeah, that's not who I am worried about right now.

Of course.its not. Leech.

That private landlord should be more responsible and not depend on the rental as an income to make ends meet. Hmmmm, I guess that argument only makes sense to you if you the victim is poor, huh?

That post is silly. We had a duplex that we lived in and the rental income helped with the expenses. If they didn't pay the rent one of us would have had to work 2 jobs.

Or you could live somewhere cheaper. Cut cable, Idk, stop posting on DCUM and get that second job

That’s what the evicted party should have done. Renters are not charity. Stop pandering and get a j-o-b or move.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Poor landlord. To get evicted you have to not pay rent for months at least.

Yeah, that's not who I am worried about right now.

Why not? If it's a private landlord, who is renting out a house or townhouse or condo that they personally own, having to evict someone means they have lost a lot of rent. Yet they still have to pay their mortgage/taxes or they could loose the property. Not to mention, someone who they evict likely was NOT taking good care of the property, so they will have extra maintenance required

Then don't be a private landlord. We all know rents are jacked up anyway so it's not like they are losing. Maybe the landlord needs to live within their means. See how that works?

Oh, it's you. I should have known.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Poor landlord. To get evicted you have to not pay rent for months at least.

Yeah, that's not who I am worried about right now.

Of course.its not. Leech.

That private landlord should be more responsible and not depend on the rental as an income to make ends meet. Hmmmm, I guess that argument only makes sense to you if you the victim is poor, huh?

That post is silly. We had a duplex that we lived in and the rental income helped with the expenses. If they didn't pay the rent one of us would have had to work 2 jobs.

Or you could live somewhere cheaper. Cut cable, Idk, stop posting on DCUM and get that second job

Wait. You are telling a poster they should sell a duplex they live in where the tenant isn't paying the rent! And the owner should work at least 1 second job so the unrelated tenant can live there.

M duplex was pretty cheap. That was decades ago when people like the PP didn't expect free stuff like housing from people.

Duplex dweller decided to insert themself into a convo about grief of eviction. They could have just stayed quiet