Could you be married to someone who had a rock solid personality but not expressive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He is 100% responsible, reliable, loyal, honest, hard-working, and loving. He is not expressive or that articulate emotionally. He says he loves me daily, and shows it through acts of service, and is always attracted to me. However he just doesn’t have that big, wide or deep of an emotional vocabulary. Considers himself a simple man (is a college educated professional). Prefers to solve problems and sort through any difficult/negative emotions in his own or with a therapist (once weekly or less, no major mental health issues). Could you live without a deep verbal emotional connection even though you know through action that the love is there?

You should definitely cheat or leave him and spend the rest of your life asking why you are inexplicably unhappy.

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Anonymous wrote:I am just stunned at the heteronormative responses here.

Not unrelated. My middle school son would say things such as this to his male friends "Are you ok?" when they seemed down. He got told this made him seem gay.

Training them early folks!! We should all be proud.

Well, don't leave us hanging. Is he?

lol. No. He is just...nice and generally very empathetic and always has been. My daughter on the other hand...

Lol my son is similar to yours. My daughter God help her future partner lol...

[Anonymous]

OP, have you tried lesbianism? Or maybe an intense female friendship with a lesbian?

[Anonymous]

OP. Thanks for all these responses! Yes I truly do feel like this person was sent to me from above. He feels similarly.

Of course he is human and has a couple of drawbacks but overall is a keeper.

And I already do have a close friendship with a lesbian lol.

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Anonymous wrote:Women are literally never happy. Wow

There’s LITERALLY several replies saying of course they would be happy with this and indeed, this is ideal.

But you turn around and extrapolate that every single woman is never happy. There’s a reason why you’re single and that reason is you.

Most women find issues with everything.

-Woman

Most women have internalized misogyny.

-Woman

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Anonymous wrote:Women are literally never happy. Wow

There’s LITERALLY several replies saying of course they would be happy with this and indeed, this is ideal.

But you turn around and extrapolate that every single woman is never happy. There’s a reason why you’re single and that reason is you.

Most women find issues with everything.

-Woman

Most women have internalized misogyny.

-Woman

^I hope this poster enjoyed the irony...somehow I doubt it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women are literally never happy. Wow

There’s LITERALLY several replies saying of course they would be happy with this and indeed, this is ideal.

But you turn around and extrapolate that every single woman is never happy. There’s a reason why you’re single and that reason is you.

Most women find issues with everything.

-Woman

Most women have internalized misogyny.

-Woman

^I hope this poster enjoyed the irony...somehow I doubt it.

Still true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He is 100% responsible, reliable, loyal, honest, hard-working, and loving. He is not expressive or that articulate emotionally. He says he loves me daily, and shows it through acts of service, and is always attracted to me. However he just doesn’t have that big, wide or deep of an emotional vocabulary. Considers himself a simple man (is a college educated professional). Prefers to solve problems and sort through any difficult/negative emotions in his own or with a therapist (once weekly or less, no major mental health issues). Could you live without a deep verbal emotional connection even though you know through action that the love is there?

While I agree most men are sort of like this, in that standoffish “man of few words” kind of way, I think you are picking up on something more — maybe some kind of repression or even an Asperger type disconnect with others or his own emotions.

A weekly therapist doesn’t just happen, a guys guy would never do that as a matter of routine — there was a problem or crisis that started it, and he is still dealing with it as he likes to “solve problems” and if it was dealt with he would no longer be seeing the therapist.

[Anonymous]

He says he loves you daily? I don't think you know what unexpressive means.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He says he loves you daily? I don't think you know what unexpressive means.

Trust me, I do. He says it often but basically uses to cover all bases—not looking for poetry but usually when someone loves and admires you they are more articulate about it. Besides this he just doesn’t talk about emotion that much except in a problem solving way. That can be good for me (I’m the opposite) but it does limit the connection a bit. But on a practical and non-verbal level, he’s a clear keeper.

[Anonymous]

Mine is more expressive at work and on LinkedIn than at home. Six sigma this and networking power hours and what not. I have a job too, but it's not plaster on a smile and be "on." I just lean into my friendships for that enthusiasm.