Perfect guy but he makes less money than me

[Anonymous]

Only you can answer this question. If you say yes, know you'll have to earn your dream yourself or in few years you'll be cursing him and his "lack of ambition".

[Anonymous]

Either you can work for the fancy lifestyle you want or stay home for the traditional lifestyle you want. You can't have both AND have this guy. You need to decide what matters more, you can't have your cake and eat it too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, and women aren't gold diggers...OP will happily marriage a POS man who's rich. But dump a great guy who happens not to be rich.

This is why so many women are unhappy. You're still stupid enough to think money does buy happiness. It doesn't after a few years.

Women want it all, lifestyle + hunky guy + ideal marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Either you can work for the fancy lifestyle you want or stay home for the traditional lifestyle you want. You can't have both AND have this guy. You need to decide what matters more, you can't have your cake and eat it too.

Truth.
Take the fun, funny and nice guy over the a-hole that lives to work.
Signed, BTDT

[Anonymous]

Modern men also want that, lovely and caring wives who are high earners and fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A guy I’ve been dating is everything I want with the exception of his income. His income will likely never change and grow. I know money doesn’t equal happiness and it’s not super important in the grand scheme of things, but it’s important for the life I envision. I want the ability to stay at home when I have kids, give kids a comfortable life, retire, etc. Should I overlook it?

Then he isn't your perfect ideal man. He is as close to you get to your ideal man. Its up to you to take it or gamble for one who has all required qualities.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Am I that out of touch for thinking that making $80k at 30 is doing pretty well? I’m 50+ and just cracked $100k this year.

Do you support a meal ticket? If so, 80 is not a lot.

If you’re single or you have a true partner, it’s a great salary

If op is making $180k now, she and the bf will make $260k as dinks and can surely bank enough cash for her to stay home for a bit if they have kids.

This whole conversation makes me sad. It’s not like good guys are a dime a dozen. A nice guy whose company you enjoy who makes a professional salary, even if it’s not a super-high one, just doesn’t come along every day.

[Anonymous]

Here's the thing: OP is stuck - if she marries BF, she will resent him for the rest of her life becacuse he doens't make enough. If she dumps him and marries someone making $400K and lives a life of material wealth, for the rest of her life, she'll pine for her one true love.

Given that OP is so materialistic, she screwed herself over by falling in love.

[Anonymous]

Op, how do you typically signal your tradwife interests? Why didn’t he pick up on them?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A guy I’ve been dating is everything I want with the exception of his income. His income will likely never change and grow. I know money doesn’t equal happiness and it’s not super important in the grand scheme of things, but it’s important for the life I envision. I want the ability to stay at home when I have kids, give kids a comfortable life, retire, etc. Should I overlook it?

He’s less than 10 years into a career. How can you be so sure of this?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I’m not looking for a meal ticket.

Age: I’m 29 and he’s 30.

Salary: I make base of $180k but can go up to $230k if I work OT. He makes $80k and his salary will not increase.

Outlook: I’m not sure if I would ever stay home but I want the option to take a couple of years off to raise my kids while they’re young.

I grew up in a large family where we didn’t have a lot of extra money. My dad was the sole provider while my mom took care of us. We couldn’t partake in after programs or extra curricular activities because we didn’t have the expendable income to cover it. I had to work 60 hour weeks and delay college so that I could save up and not take out so many student loans. I didn’t finish my degrees until 23 and 27 because of it.

I want to provide my kids with the opportunities I didn’t have. I want them to be able to partake in any activities they want, go on a family vacation, and pay for their college.

I’ve only ever dated men that have matched my salary or made more. It’s a new territory for me.

This problem will work itself out. You're only six years away from a geriatric pregnancy. It doesn't seem likely that you'll find someone that checks all of your boxes before then.

yep - op posts like she's 21-25

She should think about why she's single at nearly 30.

GMAFB. 30 is young.

[Anonymous]

What does he do that he’ll never make more than 80k?

[Anonymous]

Is this the obnoxious CRNA OP who can never find someone to check all her boxes?

[Anonymous]

This is not your ideal man. Move on. I think you're sad, OP and I'm curious why at nearly 30 you think you have a chance to land the high earning provider guy of your dreams. If you have met him and started dating by 30 your chances are very low. Those provider types want younger baby makers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, how do you typically signal your tradwife interests? Why didn’t he pick up on them?

There’s a huge gulf between wanting to be home with your kids during their 0-5 years, and being a tradwife.