DS 13 is a nightmare with braces

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Take the braces off. Try again in a few years when/if he’s ready. You can’t force him to do something (painful) with his body that he doesn’t want to do, and you shouldn’t. This isn’t life-saving medical care.

I’m assuming OP already paid in full for the treatment course

Consider it a tax for not respecting bodily autonomy

This is ridiculous! Parents make decisions for their kids that they aren't happy with all the time, including medical decisions! A 13-year-old is too young to understand the consequences of not getting his teeth fixed. Should we just let kids choose not to get vaccines, take showers, eat their vegetables or brush their teeth? Play video games all day instead of doing their homework?

OP, if you have to cancel treatment, then maybe you should have him pay you back that $5,000 plus interest. Maybe a couple of summers of mowing lawns and he will learn not to disrespect your parental efforts.

Do you believe a parent's job is too break their child's will?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Take the braces off. Try again in a few years when/if he’s ready. You can’t force him to do something (painful) with his body that he doesn’t want to do, and you shouldn’t. This isn’t life-saving medical care.

I’m assuming OP already paid in full for the treatment course

Consider it a tax for not respecting bodily autonomy

This is ridiculous! Parents make decisions for their kids that they aren't happy with all the time, including medical decisions! A 13-year-old is too young to understand the consequences of not getting his teeth fixed. Should we just let kids choose not to get vaccines, take showers, eat their vegetables or brush their teeth? Play video games all day instead of doing their homework?

OP, if you have to cancel treatment, then maybe you should have him pay you back that $5,000 plus interest. Maybe a couple of summers of mowing lawns and he will learn not to disrespect your parental efforts.

The child should not pay for the braces. They hurt and are uncomfortable. They break.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with Invisalign poster. You get the same end result and only have to go to the orthodontist every 12 weeks to get a new set of retainers - no wires to break, etc. Most orthodontists do both and I think at this point Invisalign might actually be less expensive. And if you lose a retainer, you can just move ahead to the next week’s retainer and it’s not a big deal.

Unfortunately, he has problems that Invsialign can’t fix, and it would probably be a constant battle to get him to wear them.

I have Invisalign and I hate it. No way will a 13 year old wear them correctly. You still need brackets too.

[Anonymous]

I have no real comment except that I am sorry. I have a neurotipical pain in the ass 13yo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 13 year old was terrible as well. It became such an argument and fighting all the time. We finally stopped treatment. He got a retainer to maintain what we started.

I told him we gave him the opportunity and he clearly didn’t want it and so now he can deal with it as an adult.

We are a much more peaceful home now.

I don't mean to be throwing salt into any wounds hair, but I think there is a lesson for you and OP here. You should not have forced your sons to get braces when they clearly did not want them. Instead, you should have made an offer to cover them, and waited until they agreed.

I also don't think it is very healthy for your relationship with your son to place all the blame on him for not going along with something he likely perceives to be a violation of his autonomy.

[Anonymous]

I have a kid on the spectrum and while her sensory issues aren’t particularly pronounced when sensory stuff does bother her it REALLY bothers her and profoundly upsets her. My guess is that is what your DS is going through—it probably is so deeply uncomfortable for him that it’s driving him bonkers and causing him to mess around to seek relief which is probably botching the braces. You may get better advice if you move this to the special needs forum, but I think it’s hard to fathom how this sensory stuff can be downright irritating to them to the point of not being able to function and move on.

[Anonymous]

OP is living my nightmare scenario and this is why I let my high functioning kid keep the crooked teeth. When they are a grown up they can get their janky teeth fixed, or not. Cosmetic issues are not worth this stress.

[Anonymous]

Stop blaming your child for not conforming to your preferences for his appearance, and certainly don't make him pay for your fashion choices!

If he can't handle braces, take them off. Your poor planning isn't your child's fault.

He can get orthodontic work as an adult if he wants.

Learning how to accept the existence of another person is far more important than your dental desires.

[Anonymous]

Your child is not "on the spectrum".

The "autism spectrum" refers to the symptoms that individuals may have.

Your whole post reeks of resentment for your innocent child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Take the braces off. Try again in a few years when/if he’s ready. You can’t force him to do something (painful) with his body that he doesn’t want to do, and you shouldn’t. This isn’t life-saving medical care.

I’m assuming OP already paid in full for the treatment course

Consider it a tax for not respecting bodily autonomy

This is ridiculous! Parents make decisions for their kids that they aren't happy with all the time, including medical decisions! A 13-year-old is too young to understand the consequences of not getting his teeth fixed. Should we just let kids choose not to get vaccines, take showers, eat their vegetables or brush their teeth? Play video games all day instead of doing their homework?

OP, if you have to cancel treatment, then maybe you should have him pay you back that $5,000 plus interest. Maybe a couple of summers of mowing lawns and he will learn not to disrespect your parental efforts.

Absolutely psychotic. Your child is not your slave doll.

[Anonymous]

The pressure, sensation of metal scraping against the lips, the texture of the brackets, and the pain all can be absolute horrific sensory hell for a child with autism. He sounds miserable. Take the braces off. Focus on parenting the child you have and not trying to keep up appearances.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Take the braces off. Try again in a few years when/if he’s ready. You can’t force him to do something (painful) with his body that he doesn’t want to do, and you shouldn’t. This isn’t life-saving medical care.

I’m assuming OP already paid in full for the treatment course

Consider it a tax for not respecting bodily autonomy

This is ridiculous! Parents make decisions for their kids that they aren't happy with all the time, including medical decisions! A 13-year-old is too young to understand the consequences of not getting his teeth fixed. Should we just let kids choose not to get vaccines, take showers, eat their vegetables or brush their teeth? Play video games all day instead of doing their homework?

OP, if you have to cancel treatment, then maybe you should have him pay you back that $5,000 plus interest. Maybe a couple of summers of mowing lawns and he will learn not to disrespect your parental efforts.

You don't seem to understand autism. It heightens your senses to the point that they become painful and unbearable. The pain, pressure, and scraping sensations he constantly feels in his mouth all day are so unpleasant for him that he'd rather rip them out of his mouth and quit his only activity than continue living with it. He can't turn his disability on and off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Take the braces off. Try again in a few years when/if he’s ready. You can’t force him to do something (painful) with his body that he doesn’t want to do, and you shouldn’t. This isn’t life-saving medical care.

I’m assuming OP already paid in full for the treatment course

Consider it a tax for not respecting bodily autonomy

This is ridiculous! Parents make decisions for their kids that they aren't happy with all the time, including medical decisions! A 13-year-old is too young to understand the consequences of not getting his teeth fixed. Should we just let kids choose not to get vaccines, take showers, eat their vegetables or brush their teeth? Play video games all day instead of doing their homework?

OP, if you have to cancel treatment, then maybe you should have him pay you back that $5,000 plus interest. Maybe a couple of summers of mowing lawns and he will learn not to disrespect your parental efforts.

You don't seem to understand autism. It heightens your senses to the point that they become painful and unbearable. The pain, pressure, and scraping sensations he constantly feels in his mouth all day are so unpleasant for him that he'd rather rip them out of his mouth and quit his only activity than continue living with it. He can't turn his disability on and off.

Sometimes. Sometimes hyposensitivity is the blurse, and you're at risk of not noticing that you are burning or drowning.