my 24 year old daughter

[Anonymous]

2 kids? Started dating in January? No! He wants to move in to use her financially. Next!

[Anonymous]

Help her think through what will happen if: he cheats on her, or stops paying bills or expects he to do all of the chores?

Don’t say you expect that, but that it is nice to have your own place to retreat to. And best to wait before you are legally/financially entangled with someone you don’t know well.

Try to say it adult to adult, not parent to child. (Though I know they don’t want to hear such advice rom us 😒)

[Anonymous]

Yeah…life’s too short and in these instances I wouldn’t even reason with her. Just tell her he is looking for a mother for his kids and that there are plenty of other fish in the sea without the baggage.

Of course…make sure his last name isn’t Rockefeller first.

[Anonymous]

Lets assume its a great guy with college degree, mental health, professional job and moral values but married early for some reasons like religion or culture and then had kids but had to divorce as marriage failed due to his wife.

If that's the case then why is he moving in with a random women he knew for few weeks. As a father, he should he shouldn't be rushing into new relationships so soon and so randomly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MY 24 year old daughter is doing well career wise, working as Sped teacher in PWCS, the problem is she wants to move out with a boyfriend she meet in January, I want her to move out when she able too, but what should I say something to her about signing a lease with someone they were just with for a month?
Her boyfriend seems nice, but he is 25 year old with 2 kids, he does work full time, but I just want her to wait a bit longer and not sure how to tell her that.

Hoping she doesn't become the mother of his erd child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lets assume its a great guy with college degree, mental health, professional job and moral values but married early for some reasons like religion or culture and then had kids but had to divorce as marriage failed due to his wife.

If that's the case then why is he moving in with a random women he knew for few weeks. As a father, he should he shouldn't be rushing into new relationships so soon and so randomly.

Yes, just glad she changed about moving in with them for now, but just hope she finds someone way better.

[Anonymous]

What kind of insane, irresponsible person has 2 kids by age 25 ??!?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What kind of insane, irresponsible person has 2 kids by age 25 ??!?

And then divorces their mom and wants to move in with a random woman he just met.

[Anonymous]

To be fair, my grandpa had three by the time he was 25 and according to my mom and uncles, was a loving and responsible dad.

[Anonymous]

He sounds like a complete tool and loser. Ditch him fast!

[Anonymous]

Train wreck in progress!

[Anonymous]

Where did she meet this man?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He sounds like a complete tool and loser. Ditch him fast!

Thankfully she did!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where did she meet this man?

Online

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's her decision, she needs to learn her own lessons, you can't stop her and besides, she will need your sympathetic ear if things start to go south. Just tell her it seems a bit rushed but you know she is level headed, you trust her judgment, and you are there for her if she needs you.

This is bad advice, perhaps one of the worst pieces of advice that I have read on DCUM.

I think that you should be honest with your daughter about how this is bad advice. If she really likes this boyfriend, then after 2 years, she could consider whether to move in. But a 2-year period of courtship will protect her from making a rush decision that she will regret soon.