sandbox and braids

[Anonymous]

One option is to tell the staff that your child is not allowed to play in the sand box. Hopefully, they will be able to handle this in a way that will not make her feel overly singled out or denied an enjoyable experience with her peers. You might also explain this to your child. My bias, though, would be hope that a kid would not be hampered by her hair from fully participating in any activities that she wants to try.

I say this as an African American female who has spent every summer since I was a toddler, delighting in swimming. This comes along with hair issues — but also confidence and joy.

I’m waiting for my copy of this to arrive. The author wrote it for her much younger sister. I’m expecting it to be the book that I wish I had read as a child and adolescent, and I’m looking forward to reading it now.


https://www.stclairdetrickjules.com/my-beautiful-black-hair

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Omg some of these posters are crazy. Unless you want your child ignored all day, get a nanny!

OP this is DCUM where daycares are regarded as the depths of horror and every person can easily afford a nanny. And why are you trying to play the race card.

You won’t get helpful responses here, sorry.

Op here. What are you talking about? I didn't make that comment someone wrote above. And I don't know what they're talking about either. I'm not trying to "play the race card." And I think it's totally ridiculous to suggest a nanny. Not everyone can afford a nanny Seems like one person responding over and over in this thread.

Apparently, you are not supposed to indicate race in anyway because the posters here are too fragile to cope with the fact that people of color exist and might also have problems.

Sorry OP that was supposed to be sarcasm.

But why does race have anything to do with this? Why should her child get special attention? Because her braids are expensive? So it’s ok for a white kid (or any other race) to have sand put in their hair?

Sorry, but when you add race and the expense of the braids to the story, it seems like you’re asking for special treatment. That’s very hard in a group setting.

I don’t think OP is out of line. Obviously, it will be much harder to remove the sand from her daughter’s hairstyle than unbraided hair. And if it was something else like eyeglasses got that scratched by sandbox play, you’d probably say that was different. But it’s an investment either way. You just seem to have a chip on your shoulder.

Nope, I’d say that sh*t happens in the sandbox. Eyeglasses or precious braids. Black or white. They’re 3 for crying out loud.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Omg some of these posters are crazy. Unless you want your child ignored all day, get a nanny!

OP this is DCUM where daycares are regarded as the depths of horror and every person can easily afford a nanny. And why are you trying to play the race card.

You won’t get helpful responses here, sorry.

Op here. What are you talking about? I didn't make that comment someone wrote above. And I don't know what they're talking about either. I'm not trying to "play the race card." And I think it's totally ridiculous to suggest a nanny. Not everyone can afford a nanny Seems like one person responding over and over in this thread.

Apparently, you are not supposed to indicate race in anyway because the posters here are too fragile to cope with the fact that people of color exist and might also have problems.

Sorry OP that was supposed to be sarcasm.

But why does race have anything to do with this? Why should her child get special attention? Because her braids are expensive? So it’s ok for a white kid (or any other race) to have sand put in their hair?

Sorry, but when you add race and the expense of the braids to the story, it seems like you’re asking for special treatment. That’s very hard in a group setting.

I don’t think OP is out of line. Obviously, it will be much harder to remove the sand from her daughter’s hairstyle than unbraided hair. And if it was something else like eyeglasses got that scratched by sandbox play, you’d probably say that was different. But it’s an investment either way. You just seem to have a chip on your shoulder.

Nope, I’d say that sh*t happens in the sandbox. Eyeglasses or precious braids. Black or white. They’re 3 for crying out loud.

Yeah it's like the same poster posting these troll comments. Just ignore them.

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Anonymous wrote:Omg some of these posters are crazy. Unless you want your child ignored all day, get a nanny!

OP this is DCUM where daycares are regarded as the depths of horror and every person can easily afford a nanny. And why are you trying to play the race card.

You won’t get helpful responses here, sorry.

Op here. What are you talking about? I didn't make that comment someone wrote above. And I don't know what they're talking about either. I'm not trying to "play the race card." And I think it's totally ridiculous to suggest a nanny. Not everyone can afford a nanny Seems like one person responding over and over in this thread.

Apparently, you are not supposed to indicate race in anyway because the posters here are too fragile to cope with the fact that people of color exist and might also have problems.

Sorry OP that was supposed to be sarcasm.

But why does race have anything to do with this? Why should her child get special attention? Because her braids are expensive? So it’s ok for a white kid (or any other race) to have sand put in their hair?

Sorry, but when you add race and the expense of the braids to the story, it seems like you’re asking for special treatment. That’s very hard in a group setting.

I don’t think OP is out of line. Obviously, it will be much harder to remove the sand from her daughter’s hairstyle than unbraided hair. And if it was something else like eyeglasses got that scratched by sandbox play, you’d probably say that was different. But it’s an investment either way. You just seem to have a chip on your shoulder.

Nope, I’d say that sh*t happens in the sandbox. Eyeglasses or precious braids. Black or white. They’re 3 for crying out loud.

Yeah it's like the same poster posting these troll comments. Just ignore them.

I think there are several of us that think this post is absurd, but whatever makes you feel better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s possible she got sand in her own hair (lying down in it, throwing it herself). How can you be certain someone dumped it on her head? My son frequently comes home with sand ALL
OVER (including his hair) even when he is the only one playing in the sandbox.

Maybe tell her she can’t play in it, or find a lower-maintenance hairstyle.

You sound white...

[Anonymous]

I always 1 a bonnet to wear on the playground. After bouts with mulch, sand and dirt
The best strategy for keeping hair clean for us is the bonnet.

[Anonymous]

Daycare worker here.

Have her wear a hat, bonnet, scarf or any type of head protection. As daycare staff we do our best but can’t promise they stay clean. It’s just not the environment for that.

Dirt at daycare happens. The most common is kids pouring mulch, grass or any debris over themselves. Kids just love doing this. So don’t discount that she may be pouring sand on herself. Staff should stop other kids from pouring mulch one sand on her.

I’m not AA but please heed 18:01’s advice and don’t prevent your daughter from participating in activities.

[Anonymous]

New poster here, a lot of you need a crash course in exactly why representation matters, as you are busy commenting on the braids as though they are “just” a style issue without recognizing or realizing the long ongoing history of disrespect around Black hair. Braiding this little girls hair is not only a fashion choice and celebratory expression of style, but also protective of her scalp and hair. It is likely her hair braided or not requires a significant greater amount of upkeep then your kids hair does. It is inappropriate for any kid to be dumping sand, mulch etc…on another kid, and I’m certain kids have no clue that it matters more that they do it to one kid versus another…but brushing it off and insisting “oh kids do that” is not the answer.

Kids learn by being taught and the school has an obligation to keep kids safe yes, but also that the kids are treated with respect and dignity by other kids and staff. OP, I’d recommend a bonnet and maybe some hair love teaching at the school. Is the school mostly white? Could you bring in some picture books and talk to the kids about different types of hair and how to treat others kindly etc?

For everyone else suggesting “just don’t be high maintenance”, maybe read some of this:
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Protective_hairstyle#:~:text=Common%20types%20of%20protective%20hairstyles,hair%20length%20and%20promoting%20growth.