Need abortion. Don't know what to do.

[Anonymous]

I'm sure I'll get completely hateful comments by posting this but if one person gives me any helpful advice it will be worth it. Here it goes...
I separated from my husband 6 months ago. For five years we fought about me wanting another child and him wanting just one. At 35 y/o I became so resentful I ended up falling in love with a coworker and having an affair. My husband and I have an eight year old girl we share 50/50 although we have no written agreement. Monday I found out I am 5.5 weeks pregnant with a baby from afore mentioned affair guy.
Did I want another baby more than anything in the world? Yes
Do I think it is ok to bring a baby into such a chaotic existence? No
I have no idea if me and this guy will stay together. My 8 y/o life is totally turned upside down. I work full time and can't afford not to.
As devestating as the reality is I feel terminating the pregancy is the least selfish thing I could do.
Now I am really lost. I hav no ob/gyn. I went to Falls Church Clinic and it was a seedy shithole. I want to have a safe and hopefully marginally less traumatic experience if possible.
Can anyone point me in a positive direction? A safe clinic? A good doctor?
I know what is out there but I'd really like to hear from women who have been there.
Thank you for your openness and honesty.
Oh and don't bother telling me how awful I am. I already know.

[Anonymous]

Go to Planned Parenthood. If you need an abortion, go get one. Get your life stable for your DD. Then get your love life stable for yourself. You'll be okay.

::pat,pat::

[Anonymous]

I took the abortion pill at planned parenthood many years ago. It was eerily easy. Just make an appointment and show up. They'll do an ultrasound to confirm you're 5.5 weeks and that's that. I urge you to keep the baby because in my experience I had a lot lf regret and sadness for a long time but I know for some it's the right decision. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

There are so many clinics. Are you referring to the planned parenthood on 16th st? That seems to be the "most popular".

[Anonymous]

You are not awful. You are making a health care decision, which you have every right to do. I would suggest contacting a Planned Parenthood.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I took the abortion pill at planned parenthood many years ago. It was eerily easy. Just make an appointment and show up. They'll do an ultrasound to confirm you're 5.5 weeks and that's that. I urge you to keep the baby because in my experience I had a lot lf regret and sadness for a long time but I know for some it's the right decision. Good luck.

What happened for you is not what happens with all women who abort, or even most. I had an abortion and it was like a huge weight lifted. I never felt a second of regret and had a couple of days of sadness, but it was mostly about the situation that led me to need an abortion and not aborting an unwanted fetus.

[Anonymous]

Go to PP and ask about aborting with medications and not a d&c. The PP in SE DC is very kind. Love to you.

[Anonymous]

No practical advice, OP, but just wanted to write that you are NOT awful. You are trying to protect the people already there, ie: the child you already have, as well as yourself.

Good luck with everything.

[Anonymous]

http://www.birthmothers.org no judgments; just support in case you decide to give birth.

[Anonymous]

This place is good. It has several locations, the one I'm familiar with is Rockville. But there is one in DC too.

http://www.potomacfamilyplanning.com/rockville_abortion.html

You aren't awful. Big hugs.

[Anonymous]

You're not awful. Step one, please have love and compassion for yourself. After your daughter goes to bed, sit very carefully, with no distractions. The answer will emerge.

[Anonymous]

You are not awful, OP. You are making a responsible health care decision.

I recommend the Planned Parenthood on 16th St in NWDC. They are wonderful.

[Anonymous]

You are not awful, however...you say many times how much you want another child. I'm a single Mom (not by choice) and while it is hard I would choose to have my child again. If you want this baby you can make it work even in these circumstances. You should feel that you can make that choice if you want to.

[Anonymous]

Just sending you my thoughts and a hug, OP. I faced a similar decision. There is no easy answer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're not awful. Step one, please have love and compassion for yourself. After your daughter goes to bed, sit very carefully, with no distractions. The answer will emerge.

From what she posted, it sounds like her answer has already emerged, she just needs to know how to execute it.

I'm sorry you're in this position, OP. You're not an awful person, and I hope you find peace.