Should I file for a protective order

[Anonymous]

I want a divorce from my DW. Long story short, she is a liar and a cheat. I have decided that the cheating is not my children's business, but the evil bitch is turning my children against me. She tells them that Daddy wants a divorce from Mommy because he doesn't love them, and the kids - middle schoolers - are buying into it. I just want to scream. I cannot believe a mother could be so evil and that she could so easily turn children on their Dad. I am so tired of being nothing more than a wallet for them. I can see why so many men, when faced with women like my conniving evil wife, just want to walk! It is not worth the loss of your physical and emotional health.

[Anonymous]

I love my wife very much, but I can no longer take her abuse. She is mentally ill and desperately needs help. Her illness manifests itself, among other symptoms, if fits of violent anger. Last night, we went out to a work function and while there I was talking with a woman at our table. On the way home, my wife became verbally abusive and then struck me with her closed fists while I was driving. She hit me on the head, in my ribs and on my back and shoulders. She also grabbed the steering wheel and attempted to pull the car over at speed. When we got home, I held onto the key so that I could get my things from the back of the car. In an attempt to get me to let go of the key, she bit my hand, leaving teeth marks and drawing blood. I then put it my pocket. She grabbed my trousers while I was getting my things and ripped the pocket from the back. When I looked into her eyes it was as if she was possessed by some kind of demon. It was horrible. I have been witness to/victim of her tirades before, but really nothing ever like this. How do I know she will not just take a knife in the middle of the night and plunge it into me. I only thank God our kids were not there to see this! If I file a protective order, she will end up living on the streets. If I could get her involuntarily committed - at least for initial observation/evaluation - that would be good. I cannot go on like this.

[Anonymous]

I remember you from another post. Get out now. Yes, get a restraining order. what are you waiting for?

[Anonymous]

OP, please contact the National Domestic Violence hotline. And please be safe. You cannot, and SHOULD NOT go on like this.

1-800-799-7233

http://www.thehotline.org/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I remember you from another post. Get out now. Yes, get a restraining order. what are you waiting for?

I think I do, too. But I seem to remember the same sort of "I was just talking to a woman, and wifey went 100% crazy for NO reason" 0% responsibility, too.

OP, I doubt this is the whole truth. But if your story has some reality in it, call the police. That's what people who've been assaulted should do.

Just know that, unlike DCUM, the police will get BOTH sides of the story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I remember you from another post. Get out now. Yes, get a restraining order. what are you waiting for?

I think I do, too. But I seem to remember the same sort of "I was just talking to a woman, and wifey went 100% crazy for NO reason" 0% responsibility, too.

OP, I doubt this is the whole truth. But if your story has some reality in it, call the police. That's what people who've been assaulted should do.

Just know that, unlike DCUM, the police will get BOTH sides of the story.

Nice victim blaming. If the genders were reversed...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I remember you from another post. Get out now. Yes, get a restraining order. what are you waiting for?

I think I do, too. But I seem to remember the same sort of "I was just talking to a woman, and wifey went 100% crazy for NO reason" 0% responsibility, too.

OP, I doubt this is the whole truth. But if your story has some reality in it, call the police. That's what people who've been assaulted should do.

Just know that, unlike DCUM, the police will get BOTH sides of the story.

Nice victim blaming. If the genders were reversed...

Accepted double standard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I remember you from another post. Get out now. Yes, get a restraining order. what are you waiting for?

I think I do, too. But I seem to remember the same sort of "I was just talking to a woman, and wifey went 100% crazy for NO reason" 0% responsibility, too.

OP, I doubt this is the whole truth. But if your story has some reality in it, call the police. That's what people who've been assaulted should do.

Just know that, unlike DCUM, the police will get BOTH sides of the story.

Nice victim blaming. If the genders were reversed...

I agree. I'm female, but I think questioning the DH's story as possibly not the whole story, is classless and victim blaming.

OP, I'm sorry you had to read that person's vile comment.

Please get help, and please take care of yourself. It's not your fault.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I remember you from another post. Get out now. Yes, get a restraining order. what are you waiting for?

I think I do, too. But I seem to remember the same sort of "I was just talking to a woman, and wifey went 100% crazy for NO reason" 0% responsibility, too.

OP, I doubt this is the whole truth. But if your story has some reality in it, call the police. That's what people who've been assaulted should do.

Just know that, unlike DCUM, the police will get BOTH sides of the story.

Nice victim blaming. If the genders were reversed...

If the genders were reversed, I would still be incredibly suspicious of a story about sweet innocent Belle and the evil, horrible Beast.

And I would give the same advice: If you've been assaulted, call the police. It's sound advice for any gender.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, please contact the National Domestic Violence hotline. And please be safe. You cannot, and SHOULD NOT go on like this.

1-800-799-7233

http://www.thehotline.org/

This crisis line is supportive of male victims. Another one that is male friendly in Maryland is 1-888-7HELPLINE (743-5754).

Do you have family or friends you can stay with tonight?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I remember you from another post. Get out now. Yes, get a restraining order. what are you waiting for?

I think I do, too. But I seem to remember the same sort of "I was just talking to a woman, and wifey went 100% crazy for NO reason" 0% responsibility, too.

OP, I doubt this is the whole truth. But if your story has some reality in it, call the police. That's what people who've been assaulted should do.

Just know that, unlike DCUM, the police will get BOTH sides of the story.

It's NEVER okay to hit or bite your spouse.

Op, call the domestic violence hotline. Find your way out of this relationship. Get into therapy for yourself to understand why you are sticking around for this. It is not okay.

[Anonymous]

Op just ignore the anti-male posters. There are many on this board. Just ignore them and call one of the male friendly services. Men are victims of domestic violence and regardless of what women on here will tell you - you don't deserve it and you shouldn't tolerate it.

[Anonymous]

I agree with calling the domestic violence hotline posted above. What are you looking to get out of filing for a protective order? Are you thinking of divorcing? Are you hoping the the TRO would push her to get treatment? I would also look into a local attorney, and a counselor. Abuse will do a number on you, and having some professionals in your corner to help you navigate this will be invaluable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love my wife very much, but I can no longer take her abuse. She is mentally ill and desperately needs help. Her illness manifests itself, among other symptoms, if fits of violent anger. Last night, we went out to a work function and while there I was talking with a woman at our table. On the way home, my wife became verbally abusive and then struck me with her closed fists while I was driving. She hit me on the head, in my ribs and on my back and shoulders. She also grabbed the steering wheel and attempted to pull the car over at speed. When we got home, I held onto the key so that I could get my things from the back of the car. In an attempt to get me to let go of the key, she bit my hand, leaving teeth marks and drawing blood. I then put it my pocket. She grabbed my trousers while I was getting my things and ripped the pocket from the back. When I looked into her eyes it was as if she was possessed by some kind of demon. It was horrible. I have been witness to/victim of her tirades before, but really nothing ever like this. How do I know she will not just take a knife in the middle of the night and plunge it into me. I only thank God our kids were not there to see this! If I file a protective order, she will end up living on the streets. If I could get her involuntarily committed - at least for initial observation/evaluation - that would be good. I cannot go on like this.

I am sorry this happened to you and I echo the others' advice to get a protective order. I would also urge you to get her on a 72 hour hold - she is a threat to others which should be enough cause for a judge to issue the order. I was able to get my sister put on a 72 hour hold because I was a family member and gave evidence in a private mental health hearing that she was a threat to herself. This was in Maryland - from my personal experience it was a lot easier than many people say or imagine it to be. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I remember you from another post. Get out now. Yes, get a restraining order. what are you waiting for?

I think I do, too. But I seem to remember the same sort of "I was just talking to a woman, and wifey went 100% crazy for NO reason" 0% responsibility, too.

OP, I doubt this is the whole truth. But if your story has some reality in it, call the police. That's what people who've been assaulted should do.

Just know that, unlike DCUM, the police will get BOTH sides of the story.

Nice victim blaming. If the genders were reversed...

If the genders were reversed, I would still be incredibly suspicious of a story about sweet innocent Belle and the evil, horrible Beast.

And I would give the same advice: If you've been assaulted, call the police. It's sound advice for any gender.

Are you out of your mind? The police will get BOTH sides of the story and say, "Hey, you were flirting with another woman. Sounds like you deserve what you got." Really PP?????!!!!