Can you help me figure this out please

[Anonymous]

I'm 32 weeks preg. I've had no official complications, but it's been hard pain wise, like pelvis, back pain, fatigue. It's my third baby, other kids are 8 and 5.

This baby was very much planned and we're all very excited for him. He seems healthy and doing well per all my extra scans and such (I have gotten more bc of my age, 37).

I feel very emotionally...flat. Not sad like depressed and crying, just flat. If I had my way I'd watch tv on the couch all day. No energy, and can't sleep at night bc I've been a bad sleeper in general and now it's even worse bc of the peeing, hip pain, etc. I don't go more than 2 hours without waking up. Last night I slept maybe an hour total until around 5am then fell into a decent sleep.

I don't feel depressed but also don't feel much joy either. I worry constantly about going into preterm labor, every twinge I freak the hell out. I worry about labor and delivery, will the baby and I be ok. I feel like I could literally stare at the wall all day and be content, but I do what I need to do with and for my kids. I'm kinda going through the motions a bit I think.

I have a therapist I was seeing for anxiety but haven't been able to get there bc I have no one to watch the kids and honestly, it's been over a year and she's not been helpful In a Log term sense. Like I feel like it's just a venting session, which helps in that way, but I have my best friend and it's more helpful to chat w her for an hour than the therapist. I haven't been backs rally bc of schedules and the fact that it's not very helpful.

Am I just preg, tired, and sleep deprived? Like a low level depression?

I don't know and was hoping you can help me.

[Anonymous]

I am also 37, have an 8 year old, but no 5 year old in between (this is #2 for me). I have not had a decent night's sleep the entire pregnancy, either. I am not as sick as I was with #1 (I puked for months), but I am feeling much the same way about being just generally tired and lacking in energy. I have in the past week just gotten uncomfortable (I'm about a month behind you) and hot and angry in general.

I would say it probably is just pregnancy, but it sounds like you have some pre-existing anxiety issues that you have already been talking to a professional about in the past.

And there absolutely is such a thing as prenatal depression. I wouldn't diagnose you from this post as such, but it never hurts to talk to someone about it. Maybe bring it up with your OB and see if she/he has suggestions.

The last trimester is tiring in general, though, so calling in help/support for the other kids wouldn't hurt. I have already decided that my kid is going to spend most of the month of August with her grandparents.

And doing the third trimester in the summer? UGH.

Hang in there, take some time for yourself and rest as you need to. GOOD LUCK!

[Anonymous]

OP here, thanks for your reply. I'm so jealous of those who say they feel great, have energy, etc

[Anonymous]

Anyone else?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, thanks for your reply. I'm so jealous of those who say they feel great, have energy, etc

I responded to another post over the weekend and said basically the same thing - I will never be able to relate to those who love being pregnant. This one hasn't been QUITE as bad, but I don't enjoy it, really. To be fair, I have an autoimmune disease that also causes problems with energy levels (Hashimoto's, which started as a thyroid problem during my first pregnancy and got progressively worse postpartum).

I am excited to have another baby, but pregnancy is totally a means to an end for me. Not a totally joyful, blissful experience like some people have. Lucky them - I'll be over here reading "Pregnancy Sucks" http://www.amazon.com/Pregnancy-Sucks-miracle-makes-miserable-ebook/dp/B005XBUBM8/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1405362320&sr=8-1&keywords=pregnancy+sucks

[Anonymous]

I feel kind of like this and it's my first. But mine comes and goes. If you feel it constantly, it sounds to me like depression (at least like what I experienced in my twenties). In my experience, depression often doesn't feel sad, but empty. And there's no shame in that. I would maybe touch base with your therapist again just in case this turns into post parturition depression--it mighty be easier to get that rolling now than when you have a newborn? (That's why I'm doing it, at least!)

[Anonymous]

I was so grumpy and unhappy with my third pregnancy. The sciatica and SPD were horrible! After delivery I was still tired but not as horribly annoyed and painful.

Chiropractic adjustments helped a bunch!


That being said...find time and a therapist that works for you. Take care of yourself. Which is easy to say and oh so hard to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was so grumpy and unhappy with my third pregnancy. The sciatica and SPD were horrible! After delivery I was still tired but not as horribly annoyed and painful.

Chiropractic adjustments helped a bunch!


That being said...find time and a therapist that works for you. Take care of yourself. Which is easy to say and oh so hard to do.

That sounds like me!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was so grumpy and unhappy with my third pregnancy. The sciatica and SPD were horrible! After delivery I was still tired but not as horribly annoyed and painful.

Chiropractic adjustments helped a bunch!


That being said...find time and a therapist that works for you. Take care of yourself. Which is easy to say and oh so hard to do.

OP here: sounds like me too. My pelvis and lower back are being ripped apart!