Isn't it too much of curiosity about private parts for a 5.5 year old?
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Anonymous
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It's about DDs Kindergartener friend who was initially showing her private parts to DD and constantly asking her to show hers. DD never did that and told it to me, I talked to her mom as she is like a friend to me (not very close though). I thought it's just curiosity and normal. And better to tell her mom so that she can keep a watch on her. But after few days, DDs friend wanted to touch DDs private parts and she forcibly did it. Also she said she wants to feel it from inside (clothes). When DD told me this I just could not believe it. I was shocked. I want to talk to her mom but don't know how to approach her. It is soooo weird.
Also she is DDs best friend and we often have play dates with her (mostly at my place). DD likes her company a lot. She is otherwise a nice girl and I have always liked her for her decent behavior. But after this incident, I have avoided the play dates. Btw, they both ride the same school bus and always sit next to each other. And she has done this many times in the bus as well. Is it normal for a 5 year old to have so much curiosity? I strongly feel that there must be some back story behind this? Im worried about her as well. Shall I mention to her mom that there could be something going on without her knowledge? Would she feel offended? Has anyone ever encountered such situation? Do you think her friend's behavior is normal? |
Anonymous
| I think it is normal to have that level of curiousity. |
Anonymous
| Even wanting to touch and feel others private parts is normal too? |
Anonymous
Not sure? What if the child has a personality that they like to touch things they are curious about? I know two kids who are very curious about everything. One likes to watch but not touch. Another wants to watch and touch - even if it is something gross, like moldy bread, rotting fruit etc. |
Anonymous
| The curiosity seems normal to me. The forcible touching does not, and that's what would concern me. |
Anonymous
| Yes, it's normal. |
Anonymous
| My DD is five and none of her friends have expressed that level of curiosity. My DD has had curiosity with her own body but she has never aggressively tried to touch and feel someone else's private parts...nor have any of her buddies. I would be somewhat concerned. |
Anonymous
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Forcibly touching is not normal. And not accertable. You need to make sure your child knows that this is unacceptable behavior and she should report it to an adult as soon as it happens. I would let the mom know what happened. I would be tempted to tell the scho so they can keep an eye on her also. They may also have resources to better determine what is going on (harmless or more).
I would tell the mom, but realize if there is abuse, she may be aware of it. |
Anonymous
Oh, come on! You don't tell the school. |
Anonymous
| Typically the curiosity is more like, "I'll show you mine if you show me yours." In my experience, it's always been a two-way street. I too would be concerned about forcefully trying to touch. Talk to her mom again and tell her exactly what your daughter told you. Let the mom decide how to deal with it. I wouldn't care if she is offended. The best you can do is make her aware. |
Anonymous
| I would focus on your daughter and teaching her what to say in any situation where someone makes her do something she's uncomfortable with: "Stop. I don't like that." And, if the person persists, tell someone in authority like a teacher. |
Anonymous
| This child is displaying signs of abuse. Whether you inform the school, parent etc. is up to you. But I would definitely keep my daughter away from this child. And have a serious talk to your DD about personal space. No one has the right to touch her privates. |
Anonymous
| I would tell the teacher. |