I hate it when moms two and more complain
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Anonymous
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There, I said it.
I am not talking about those who had twins as their first children. I am talking about moms who have two or more, who say how hard it is to deal with a toddler or preschooler while pregnant, how difficult it is to juggle kids for play dates and appointments, how hard it is to not have coinciding naps. Didn't you know how hard it is after having just one? Wasn't this knowledge enough to either be prepared or not have any more children? Of course I cannot say anything in their face. But this is always my first thought. You made this bed, so deal with it. . I feel guilty thinking this but I just can't keep it inside if me anymore. Flame away. |
Anonymous
| Op, how many kids do you have? |
Anonymous
| You must have a lot of time on your hands to worry so much about other people. |
Anonymous
| I agree. The worst is when someone comes on with like four kids and pregnant and complains that their husband is an asshole and their life a nightmare. Hello? Stop breeding already! |
Anonymous
No. Raising one kid is really easy. Especially if you have a spouse who can help you. Why are you finding it so hard? |
Anonymous
| You should feel guilty for thinking this way. Is everything in your life 100% perfect? No. It's perfectly okay for parents to want two kids and to go into this decision because the good outweighs the bad, but to be honest about the bad too. People need to vent sometimes. Maybe the things you vent about are different, but I'm sure you are the same in some way. |
Anonymous
| What's up, OP? You're just bored on a Sunday night and thought it may be fun to start a fight? |
Anonymous
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OP here- I have one child.
I am not happy about these thoughts of mine  I am generally an easy going person.
Oh yes and sometimes I just feel happy I have only one, when I hear or see how difficult it is with multiples. |
Anonymous
Is the issue that you really want to have another child and can't? Otherwise, to be this worked up over this seems odd. |
Anonymous
| I have 2 and honestly didnt know how hard it would be. I intentionally spaced them 3 years apart but ended up having a complicated pregnancy, totally different to the first. |
Anonymous
Not easy for me- the spouse has to work, I have to work, all kids have trouble sleeping at times, and all this teething and whatnot... I mean, if you add another to the mix, it's hard! |
Anonymous
No, I am 37 and getting pregnant was easy even at 34, so I think if I wanted to I could have another. I am fearful every time I have late period, so I don't think it's that. Or maybe I just envy the brave who truly want another even knowing what they are getting into? I feel guilty sometimes I don't want to give my child a sibling, but for myself I am good with one. |
Anonymous
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I get you, OP. People have a right to bitch, but they need to understand the consequences for their choices. Applicable to any scenario. Bitching under this scenario gets really old really fast, and they should be mindful if they're bitching to people who aren't in the same boat.
I have 3 DC and love the busyness and chaos that comes with it. If I ever do bitch about it, which is rare, I share my vents with fellow moms who have 3+ and can relate. |
Anonymous
| I am inclined to agree with OP. I have one, I have a supportive husband and no real financial worries and its still HARD. My one year old is currently in a sleep regression. S taking hours to fall asleep now. If you think is easy the. You aren't doing much parenting. Is it easier than two? of course, but still parents act surprised when two or three rolls out and it's supposedly some surprise that its so,hard. |
Anonymous
| It's akin to people bitching about how hard it is to keep their enormous house clean or how expensive it is to repair their Bentley. Totally predictable situations foreseeably derived from your choice: deal. |