Look, the head-in-the-sand "Don't think about STIs, they don't really matter" poster finaliy found the thread. The bold above is nonsense. Proofread your posts better, troll. "Cervical only happens when someone does not get regular Pap smears." No, idiot, cervical cancer is detected by smears; it happens whether or not a woman gets a smear to detect it. Do you even understand the difference between what you wrote and how cancer "happens"? The "stop fear mongering" people on DCUM have a strange need to downplay the potential for STIs. I've seen posts like this over the years on this forum. The ignorance is staggering. The simplest Google search will turn up reputable studies about the rise in STIs overall in the US in recent years. But these posters must think they're magically immune and they cling to their "scientific" belief that, eh, it's really very rare, it's less likely in an affair between married people, whatever. |
There is that. |
I get the hurt and anger, OP and I'm sorry this has happened. I was cheated on. I wish I had been told before I had chlamydia. I would tell the other spouse. |
+ 1 million And I do research involved with STi bacteria and viruses and horrified to find out my spouse was exposing me to them banging fellow married whores off of AM. Cesspool |
100% BOOM!!! People deserve the truth in their marriage and for their own health risk. |
I used to think that cheaters were the scum of the earth until my spouse unilaterally decided that sex and affection and kindness towards me was not worth the effort. The life we built together was so good and he hadn't always been that way and I just couldn't understand what happened. It was so lonely, so I do not blame someone who finds a connection with another person in a circumstance like that. |
^ I do. You probably were banging mem sho were having sex with three wives regularly and had zero idea they were banging women like you on the side. The trauma induced from finding out stays with you for life.
Just get a fkkkkkkmg divorce if your marriage is that bad. Seriously. And if it was that bad- you shoukd have had a gddamn job to support yourself. Thank his I had a job and my own retirement and found leave when I needed to. |
* their wives |
That’s why if you do, you would have to share hard proof (if requested). Definitely share, she has a right to make her informed choice, not what others think is best for her. |
I have never so much as had a coffee with a man that my husband didn’t know about, much less cheating. Our marriage is in a very loving and good place now, and we have always supported each other through our careers. But I still don’t judge. But hey, whatever gets you through the day. You clearly need some help dealing with your feelings about this. Good luck. |
Why stay with a man that traumatized you for life? I don’t get it, you are able to forgive your spouse and continue to have sex with them, but the AP is the one to blame? I was say you look like a fool if you tell anyone and stay with the cheater. |
Where the fk does it say I stayed^? I didn’t. Glad I had a great career and retirement myself to be able to do so. |
Just spell it out in an anonymous email—give as much detail as possible, dates of things, who else knows, if an overnight-where/when, etc., times they met up, how they communicated, etc. Then let it go. You will have done your due diligence and can go on with your own life. Don’t feel any guilt. If someone was willing to come mess with your family/life in such a way- it no way compared to one simple email or call that is merely calling out facts so the spouse can know the reality of their marriage. |
You seem more angry and damaged than "glad." |
You clearly have not had HPV detected on a pap. Very common and precancerous cells are easily detected by a pap and treatable. I got it after marriage. It is not a big deal. Most people are much for at risk for STDs single than one affair partner. Most women will get hpv by 50. Most never know they have it: most times, your body clears it and it never is an issue. You are really ignorant in these issues. |