Curious: Did you/will you have a shower for #2?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My sister is throwing me a "Baby Sprinkle" for my 2nd DD due in April. In the invite she included a cute saying about how this is a "sprinkle", not a shower. It talked about gifts like diapers, wipes, lotions, etc... This is my 2nd and last and my family and friends want to celebrate. I don't think anything is wrong etiquette wise if your friends/family want to celebrate with you. My friend just asked me last night if anyone was throwing one for me b/c she would if not. I told her my sister was so my friend wants to help. There are a lot of websites with info on "sprinkles" for anyone interested.

On a side note, I am not registering for anything, I think that would be a little tacky. There are a couple big items I need, but my mom and MIL will get us those items.

I think a sprinkle is probably a nice idea. But the fact that you're invitation talked about gift suggestions seems tacky. With a sprinkle, I think you just need to let people bring what they want, if anything.

My sister included the gift suggestions b/c it was part of a cute poem/invite wording. If I received the invite for a friend I wouldn't think it was tacky, just helpful knowing what a mom-to-be would be in need of.

[Anonymous]

I had 2 showers for my 1st (one at work and one for friends). For my 2nd, I had recently started a new job and my new co-workers had a very small luncheon where i received a few gifts. I was embarrassed since (1) it was my second-of the same sex as #1 and (2) I didn't know these co-workers very well yet.

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I think it's great if your friends want to throw a small second or third baby shower. I don't get how or why it's tacky if a friend is excited to plan one. Obviously they really care about you and WANT to do something for you and baby. I've been invited to a few and I think they are great. As for any information about gifts, I would rather know what the mom to be needs because I would show up to a baby shower with at least a little something. I would feel rude going empty handed. I've also heard about the sprinkle idea and think its adorable.

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Here's the old thread about 2nd baby showers.

[Anonymous]

The easy answer is a Sip & See.

And if your friends throw you one, no worries--it just means that you have friends that care. Correct on the feedback the actual etiquette is being polite and doing what makes others comfortable, rules be damned.

[Anonymous]

Call me cheap, but I think one bridal and baby shower per female is plenty, regardless of the number of actual weddings or births.

[Anonymous]

I feel really blessed to have such good friends who would throw a party for me celebrating my new baby.

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I would not have a 2nd shower,however, if friends want to throw a party for you it should be communicated that it's a celebration and gifts are not expected. People seem to forget what showers are about, getting the necessities to start off a new life for baby or wedding

[Anonymous]

I would never have a second shower. If a friend wanted to throw one anyway, I'd have a small party to celebrate #2, but would specify "no gifts" and stress that. The baby and the friendship are the best gifts I could receive anyway.

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But wouldn't it be even more helpful to have a registry for #2, since it would be more likely that you wouldn't need that much, just targetted things?

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I am currently pregnant with #2 and when we told one of my DH's best friends from childhood/high school, she insisted that we needed to register again. I, of course, thought it was tacky and didn't want to do it. But she pointed out that 1.) people will want to buy you gifts and it is helpful to them if the know what you need v. what you already have and 2.) you get coupons for registry completions. 3.) it's a good way to keep track of things you want/need. So I will probably register somewhere but not tell anyone. It will be at the usual suspects types of stores so if anyone went looking, they would find it.


I don't want another shower but will probably have a welcome baby party instead

I think it's very sweet that your friends threw you another shower. Since you had nothing to do with it, I wouldn't consider it tacky at all. It's not like you could have forced them not to do it!

[Anonymous]

Who cares??? It's nit as I'd the mother is throwing it for herself, if friends want to host it then SO WHAT???

[Anonymous]

I'm preggers with #2 right now. DS just turned two. I personally, would never have one but have been invited to 3 in the past year. I wasn't so offended that I didn't attend but I was surprised that they went ahead and registered again. That to me seemed tacky.

I'm pregnant with #2 and definitely not having a shower. However, I did create a registry on BRU to keep track of things I need to buy for the new baby. I wasn't thinking of it so much as a registry, more of an organizational tool for myself. My sister-in-law found it and told me it was tacky. Whatever. In addition to keeping myself organized, it will also get me a 10% discount on the double stroller I will need to buy after the new baby arrives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I'm preggers with #2 right now. DS just turned two. I personally, would never have one but have been invited to 3 in the past year. I wasn't so offended that I didn't attend but I was surprised that they went ahead and registered again. That to me seemed tacky.

I'm pregnant with #2 and definitely not having a shower. However, I did create a registry on BRU to keep track of things I need to buy for the new baby. I wasn't thinking of it so much as a registry, more of an organizational tool for myself. My sister-in-law found it and told me it was tacky. Whatever. In addition to keeping myself organized, it will also get me a 10% discount on the double stroller I will need to buy after the new baby arrives.

Exactly why I would do it too!

[Anonymous]

I love how people who had second showers always say they were "talked into it" against their will. Who knew there were so many rabid shower-throwers running around holding guns to expectant moms' heads?