14 year old dating 20 year old

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I call troll. Some teenager is probably bored on winter break or a snow day and is writing this post to get reactions.

Ding ding ding!!!!!

Most likely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree this is terrible but what can the school do? Kick him out because you don’t want them dating? And it’s only illegal if they have sex.

Ultimately you need to control your child. You seem to want others to do that for you. Take her phone, take a day off of work and go with her to every class and follow her around during free periods. Do it day after day until she’s embarrassed and stops talking to him. Pop up occasionally to make sure it’s through.

Or threaten him and tell him you’ll report him to the police and have him arrested for statutory rape. You may be able to convince him that it’s illegal even without sex.

+1. The school cannot control who your daughter dates, only you can. The issue is the lack of control you have on your daughter. It is not that crazy to have a 20 year old student in school if they have an IEP or are ELL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He is likely very similar to other 18 year old seniors. He has the same life experiences and is at the same stage. I don't think being 20 is all that significant.

He is 3 years ahead of her. Freshman / senior dating is not unheard of. Nor is it illegal. I have no idea if they are sexually active or not.

You are so wrong on this one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree this is terrible but what can the school do? Kick him out because you don’t want them dating? And it’s only illegal if they have sex.

Ultimately you need to control your child. You seem to want others to do that for you. Take her phone, take a day off of work and go with her to every class and follow her around during free periods. Do it day after day until she’s embarrassed and stops talking to him. Pop up occasionally to make sure it’s through.

Or threaten him and tell him you’ll report him to the police and have him arrested for statutory rape. You may be able to convince him that it’s illegal even without sex.

+1. The school cannot control who your daughter dates, only you can. The issue is the lack of control you have on your daughter. It is not that crazy to have a 20 year old student in school if they have an IEP or are ELL.

A 20 year old man should not be a student in a traditional high school with 13/14/15 year old freshmen and sophomores.

The high school age cap needs to be 19 cor a senior and anyone older needs to be moved to an alternative school.

[Anonymous]

I met my now DH when I was 15 and he was 20. We did not meet in school though, he was in college at that point. We are in our 30s now with kids, doing well. Why don’t you get to know the guy before freaking out? Your approach may ruin your relationship with your daughter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He is likely very similar to other 18 year old seniors. He has the same life experiences and is at the same stage. I don't think being 20 is all that significant.

He is 3 years ahead of her. Freshman / senior dating is not unheard of. Nor is it illegal. I have no idea if they are sexually active or not.

You are so wrong on this one.

In what way? Unless they are sexually active, it isn't illegal for a freshman and senior to date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree this is terrible but what can the school do? Kick him out because you don’t want them dating? And it’s only illegal if they have sex.

Ultimately you need to control your child. You seem to want others to do that for you. Take her phone, take a day off of work and go with her to every class and follow her around during free periods. Do it day after day until she’s embarrassed and stops talking to him. Pop up occasionally to make sure it’s through.

Or threaten him and tell him you’ll report him to the police and have him arrested for statutory rape. You may be able to convince him that it’s illegal even without sex.

+1. The school cannot control who your daughter dates, only you can. The issue is the lack of control you have on your daughter. It is not that crazy to have a 20 year old student in school if they have an IEP or are ELL.

A 20 year old man should not be a student in a traditional high school with 13/14/15 year old freshmen and sophomores.

The high school age cap needs to be 19 cor a senior and anyone older needs to be moved to an alternative school.

But that isn't the law, and until it is (which it won't be)- it is not up to the school to police who is dating who.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He is likely very similar to other 18 year old seniors. He has the same life experiences and is at the same stage. I don't think being 20 is all that significant.

He is 3 years ahead of her. Freshman / senior dating is not unheard of. Nor is it illegal. I have no idea if they are sexually active or not.

You are so wrong on this one.

In what way? Unless they are sexually active, it isn't illegal for a freshman and senior to date.

It is illegal for a 2p year old man to date a person 4 years or more you her than him.

Grades are irrelevant

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree this is terrible but what can the school do? Kick him out because you don’t want them dating? And it’s only illegal if they have sex.

Ultimately you need to control your child. You seem to want others to do that for you. Take her phone, take a day off of work and go with her to every class and follow her around during free periods. Do it day after day until she’s embarrassed and stops talking to him. Pop up occasionally to make sure it’s through.

Or threaten him and tell him you’ll report him to the police and have him arrested for statutory rape. You may be able to convince him that it’s illegal even without sex.

+1. The school cannot control who your daughter dates, only you can. The issue is the lack of control you have on your daughter. It is not that crazy to have a 20 year old student in school if they have an IEP or are ELL.

A 20 year old man should not be a student in a traditional high school with 13/14/15 year old freshmen and sophomores.

The high school age cap needs to be 19 cor a senior and anyone older needs to be moved to an alternative school.

But that isn't the law, and until it is (which it won't be)- it is not up to the school to police who is dating who.

The law needs to be modified.

There is no reasonable justification for requiring high schools to allow 20-21 year old adults to attend school with the general student population.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is illegal for a 2p year old man to date a person 4 years or more you her than him.

Grades are irrelevant

it may be the law in your state and local jurisdiction but every states and local jurisdictions has its own law. You can't apply california law in virginia unless the crime is committed in california.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thank you daca

Vote Democrat!!! Lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

It is illegal for a 2p year old man to date a person 4 years or more you her than him.

Grades are irrelevant

This is true only if you believe that "date" and "have sexual contact with" are synonyms.

[Anonymous]

Actually, I don't think OP is a troll. Something similar happened to my daughter when she was a 14-year old freshman, and the outcome was about as bad as you can possibly imagine.

Combine the romantic illusions, drive toward autonomy, and tendency toward secrecy of your average 14 year old girl with an emotionally immature, short-cut seeking adult man and you've got a disaster in the making. BTDT.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He is likely very similar to other 18 year old seniors. He has the same life experiences and is at the same stage. I don't think being 20 is all that significant.

He is 3 years ahead of her. Freshman / senior dating is not unheard of. Nor is it illegal. I have no idea if they are sexually active or not.

You are so wrong on this one.

In what way? Unless they are sexually active, it isn't illegal for a freshman and senior to date.

It is illegal for a 2p year old man to date a person 4 years or more you her than him.

Grades are irrelevant

Really - there are laws on dating? Can you point to those. I have never heard of laws on ages of teens dating. So if a 14 and 19 year old go to a movie together - the 19 year old could be arrested if one of them says it was a date?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree this is terrible but what can the school do? Kick him out because you don’t want them dating? And it’s only illegal if they have sex.

Ultimately you need to control your child. You seem to want others to do that for you. Take her phone, take a day off of work and go with her to every class and follow her around during free periods. Do it day after day until she’s embarrassed and stops talking to him. Pop up occasionally to make sure it’s through.

Or threaten him and tell him you’ll report him to the police and have him arrested for statutory rape. You may be able to convince him that it’s illegal even without sex.

+1. The school cannot control who your daughter dates, only you can. The issue is the lack of control you have on your daughter. It is not that crazy to have a 20 year old student in school if they have an IEP or are ELL.

A 20 year old man should not be a student in a traditional high school with 13/14/15 year old freshmen and sophomores.

The high school age cap needs to be 19 cor a senior and anyone older needs to be moved to an alternative school.

If they can prevent an adult employee from preying on the children, they can also prevent an adult student from doing so. This 20-year-old man doesn't get to be considered as a "minor" because he's enrolled in school.