Why am I so frickin irritated?
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Anonymous
| Agree that 1 night for personal time is reasonable (and if he takes one so should you); 3 is absurd. And for that matter, why not tell him to find a way to 'reinvent himself' on a wknd afternoon while perhaps toddler still naps and it might be a little easier for you, instead of during what for most toddler/baby households is the suicide hour. |
Anonymous
| Ask him how it would work out if you mirrored his plan. Three nights out for him, home for you. Three nights out for you, home for him. Only one night of family time? |
Anonymous
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I actually think the time he is requesting (6hrs/wk) is reasonable enough, unless he also has very long work hours. BUT I do think that missing three dinners/bedtimes a week is the unacceptable part. If he could structure the 6 hours at other times, then I actually don't that is too unreasonable, unless of course as I said before that you both have crazy hectic work schedules.
Myself and my dh have our outside interests as well as having three children under four and under. He plays in a band, which takes about 6 hours per wk I would say and I run and workout. We are fortunate that it works for us since I SAH and he has a normal 9-5 local job. |
Anonymous
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i guess im in the minority in that i agree with the above- if he needs to get out of the house and have fun, fine, but i'd also want him to see kids and you at times, too.
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Anonymous
Yup, sounds like he's setting up free time for an affair. 
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