My neice is scared of my husband

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think you should be offended but I also don't think it's reasonable to make your DH stay out of the family room if that's where most of the family is gathered.

This. She needs to face her fear. While seated in a parent’s lap in her home, so she isnt terrified. But she can see DH across the room and see that people she loves are comfortable around him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is no reason to be offended by a two year old

Agree

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is no reason to be offended by a two year old

Agree

Doesn't sound like they are offended by a two year old. But it is lousy if the ADULTs expect OP's DH to stay out of the room. They need to allow him to participate fully. The kid can stay by mom and dad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Niece is 2 year old, and she stays home with SIL ( full time mom) most of the time. She has not gone to daycare or any playdates or any structured class. We see them a few times at family gathering per year. She scares of my DH since she was like 8 months old. She cries everytime she sees him even he stays far away. She just cries at the sight of him. DH is a big guy. I have told DH to smile at her or try to play with her. She is just scared of him. DH gets annoyed that everyone sees him as a bad guy and he can't be present at the family room.

She used to scare of SIL's brother, but overtime, she is over it. My brother/SIL tells me that they don't understand why she is scared of DH as the only person in the world. I don't like the way they put it, and I also doubt it. The way they put in words hurt DH's feelings. DH has not done anything to niece. What could be the reason why she is scared/cried at the sight of DH even he stays far away out of all family members? We are all look the same (black hair, black eyes), except he is the tallest and biggest one (6 ' 180 lbs).

I'd you are making him leave then he should be angry. Two year olds do not rule the roost. Take her out of the room.

[Anonymous]

OP, your DH's family sounds dysfunctional. Are they dramatic? Is he seen as the scapegoat? How often do you see these people?

Little kids do weird things. It's the actions of the ADULTS in the family that are unexpected and off. Let her sit on a parent's lap or be held and she will get used to DH over time. That they are not facilitating that, instead the OPPOSITE suggests to me this has older roots in the family dynamics.

[Anonymous]

The first time my daughter met her grandad she burst into tears. He was a big guy with a beard. She eventually got over it.

[Anonymous]

1. Please don't take this seriously, kids are not rational.

2. This is something that will improve with time as she sees him more.

3. One of my dear friends is Nigerian with very dark skin. When my 8-months old saw her for the first time, he began to cry hysterically. I was mortified!!! It's just kids being kids but at the time I was like, omg I'm raising a racist. This is all by way of saying kids just do things like this and you simply cannot take it personally or seriously.