Is Marriage Worth It?

[Anonymous]

Here is the answer, which another poster said:

"If it's the right person and partnership, yes. If it's not, it's hell."

Really, it's heaven or hell. For me, it is worth it and a central part of life. But if I was with the wrong person, I know I would rather be alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH and I are in out 60s and health issues have emerged. We have been happy over 40 years but the last 8 or so have been difficult; job loss, death of parents, health issues, etc.

When he had surgery recently, he needed a lot of help. Like a lot.

In these instances there's nothing like a spouse to lend aid and comfort. Maybe a sibling or a child, but that is a burden.

Women live longer than men. It's great that your husband is in a good place with you as his caregiver. But who will lend comfort and aid to you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, I was married for 24 years. The hell he put through in divorce was not worth it. Hard pass. I would never even live together. Keep separate homes and finances.

same. wish he never existed.

[Anonymous]

Where you going to find that partner? I never met a man worth marrying.

[Anonymous]

My marriage is one of the single best things that has ever happened to me. But the reason it is so good is that it permeates almost every other part of my life. So my good marriage makes my whole life better. The flip side is therefore also true, a bad marriage can make everything worse. A blah marriage can make everything blah.

I underestimated just how important choosing the right person is when I got married. Not intentionally I was just young etc. I got lucky and my husband and I grew together and are truly extraordinarily well matched.

So my advice would be, don't get married for the sake of being married. But if you meet the right person don't reject marriage because of some preconceived notions about the institution. Marriage is about the people getting married, its goodness is a direct reflection of that.

[Anonymous]

Marriage is the only way we are permitted by God to fulfill our sexual desires. Everything else is a sin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Marriage is the only way we are permitted by God to fulfill our sexual desires. Everything else is a sin.

I'd rather laugh with the sinners than cry with the saints. The sinners are much more fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Marriage has been the biggest blessing of my life next to motherhood. Highly recommend.

Same but I also get that not everyone has this. DH is my best friend in the world. The only one I can be completely myself with.

[Anonymous]

Not sure what the legal document has to do with being happy?

So no you don’t need to legally be married to be happy if you find a life partner.

Many need the legal document to get their spouses money.

Are you marrying for money?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Marriage is the only way we are permitted by God to fulfill our sexual desires. Everything else is a sin.

Someone said. Here are the reasons to get married if you don't want kids:

1. Religion
2. Taxes
3. Death benefits (SS, hospital visits, asset sharing)

I am not religious. Marriage does not help me with my taxes. I don't need the death benefits as I can accomplish death planning outside of marriage.

Other reasons, like love and companionship, are things I believe in, but I don't need the state involved in a romantic relationship.

[Anonymous]

Mostly? Absolutely, not. The stats don't lie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here is the answer, which another poster said:

"If it's the right person and partnership, yes. If it's not, it's hell."

Really, it's heaven or hell. For me, it is worth it and a central part of life. But if I was with the wrong person, I know I would rather be alone.

I agree with this 100%. I think people should be careful about getting married for the wrong reason. My mom had the choice to marry a very wealthy man or a man that was doing fine but wasn't rich whom she loved. She married the man she loved and they've been together happily married for years. If she had married the other man she would likely be divorced again. My aunt and I were talking and she mentioned how my mom married "the wrong man" because my aunt would have chosen the wealthy person instead.

[Anonymous]

I got remarried after divorce and I was done having kids. We dated for many years and always thought I would not get remarried. But it’s a deeper connection and commitment now that we’re married. Also, I now have better health insurance and saved money on taxes. So there’s that! But truly those weren’t the main reasons. We love being husband and wife rather than boyfriend and girlfriend. Maybe we’re old fashioned.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here is the answer, which another poster said:

"If it's the right person and partnership, yes. If it's not, it's hell."

Really, it's heaven or hell. For me, it is worth it and a central part of life. But if I was with the wrong person, I know I would rather be alone.

Only worth it if it's with the right person. And, if you're not interested in having kids, maybe just live together? Or be one of those couples that just stays engaged forever!

[Anonymous]

I'm married and no kids (47) and I definitely think it is worth it. I a married my best friend and have a partner for life.