I don’t think you should engage in gossip generally, but this is a safety issue. Your dd is a teenager now and will become much more independent in the next few years. If you want to make sure she never accepts a ride from this man or finds herself alone in his company while friend uses the bathroom or something like that, you need to have a conversation with her. It’s okay to couch it like you’re not sure exactly what he did or whether he poses any threat, but that because he has some sort of record, she needs to be cautious and limit interactions with him. Emphasize that you don’t know his story, you don’t think this should interfere with her friendship, and that it’s not her place to confront her friend with this revelation or to talk about it with other kids behind her friend’s back. |
It's easy enough to click and see what the specific crimes were. |
.... but your OP says youve talked with him extensively about your adjacent careers. Which is it? |
I bet she does know but he’s told her it was a “misunderstanding” and downplayed it. You really think this girl never asked why she can’t ever have friends over at her house??? |
Please give us one citation that proves or supports your comment. |
can you all stop gossiping for ten seconds and think of this? |
Yes, I have thought of your neighbor who went to jail for child porn and you say he has been very kind to your family, which. I've been thinking of it a lot because I am hoping you don't have children who he is "great and kind" to. |
Sure you can forgive. But never ever forget. Believe it when people show you who they are. |
Why? OP has not been wronged and the man in question isn’t attempting to make amends with her. This isn’t about forgiveness. He may have changed, he may not have changed. OP is just looking for advice on how to handle this in terms of her DD’s friendship. |
You actually don’t have to forgive the man at all to continue to be good to his daughter. They’re two separate people. The daughter has done nothing wrong- OP doesn’t need to shun her or keep her DD away NOR does she need to worry herself for forgiving a crime that didn’t involve her. |