What is your non-sporty middle schooler doing this summer?

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Anonymous wrote:I would send them to a camp that helps them become more sporty and active if you can (tennis/golf/rock climbing/soccer) - I don't say that to be mean, but if they can't participate in at least a few sports with confidence it will impact them socially for the rest of their lives.

Where do you live that adult men have time to be playing sports socially on any kind of regular basis? The ones I know have busy jobs and family responsibilities.

DH has been playing soccer once a week in various leagues for some time now. His in an over-40 league now. Obviously there are a lot more aches and pains now. This is his social activity.

Sincerely this is nice but not typical. A lot of men this age have multiple kids and are busy on the weekends, not playing soccer themselves.

We have multiple kids, though they are teens. The time for guys this age to play is usually late on a week day evening. No soccer place will give time to older people on weekends. Their bread and butter is kids' classes and leagues.

But don't parents try to squeeze in exercise during the week? DH is more motivated to do weights and aerobic exercise because he gets to see the results on the field, while socializing with the other teammates. It's really just one late night a week. It's not for me, but for those who are motivated, it can have a positive impact on their physical and emotional health. So I work with him to make it happen. I didn't know he was such an outlier.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would send them to a camp that helps them become more sporty and active if you can (tennis/golf/rock climbing/soccer) - I don't say that to be mean, but if they can't participate in at least a few sports with confidence it will impact them socially for the rest of their lives.

Where do you live that adult men have time to be playing sports socially on any kind of regular basis? The ones I know have busy jobs and family responsibilities.

I mean, what’s confusing about this?

My DH best friend is an avid bowler and has been since we were in college. He never stopped playing. His wife also does something with friends once a week, and does Pilates in the evening.

My DH and I both work out once a day. He golfs once a week in the summer. In the summer, I bike outdoors sometimes twice a day.

Maybe learn to make a little time for YOU instead of judging everyone else who does. Whats stopping you?

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Theater camp for three weeks. Beyond that...forcing him to go to the pool (even if he refuses to get in and just reads a book), playing too much Fortnite, eating all the snacks in the house as soon as I buy them, and driving me crazy? I like someone else's idea of giving him responsibility for walking the dog - I think we'll make that a chore.