I'm the phone hater you're responding to. I think you are coming across as a little needier than you probably want to. Or more controlling. Texting has really forced me to see people more clearly in a way. Who sends tons of emojis? Who responds immediately? Who doesn't respond if their answer is no? In its own way, texting tells you a lot about who a person is. I'm on the fence about your BF. I'm not a texter, as established, but I'd be p*ssed if someone just sent me a flower response. If I wanted to move forward with him, I would text back: I take it your flower is a maybe for tomorrow? If that makes him think you are too much, so be it. You needing a response and him not giving you one is a red flag about your compatibility--but says nothing about whether each of you is TA or not. |
I date a dry texter. In real life he talks non-stop, but is bad at texting. I don’t ever take it personally. I have friends and group chats for all day texting if I feel like I need it. This is what’s known as a fake problem. You’re 50; when you started dating you were not texting at all and so show survived |
It’s normal to feel a bit insecure early on, but you should be able to manage that without blowing up.
A nice flower is a good text! Chill, lady. |
OP here: This wasn't a convo -- it was midday and was the first text either one of us sent each other today. |
You may have misread the OP. Not only did he commit, he actually suggested they hang out tomorrow. OP confirmed. |
So? |
OP here: No, I suggested we hang out tomorrow. He did not suggest it. And he did not commit - later when we texted he said he couldn't do tomorrow. He committed to next week. |
It’s 7:30 pm and I haven’t heard from my bf yet today. I know he worked until 2 am and had to go back in this afternoon. I’ll hear from him eventually, later or tomorrow. Try to relax! |
But you wanted to keep convo going, that’s the whole. The point about texting your family and friends “constantly” is the problem. Some people don’t want to keep texting. They want to be focused on actual life. |
All before the flower? |
Based on your posts, which have everyone confused, maybe written communication is not the best option going forward. Try calling next time |
I said I was free to hang out tomorrow. And next weekend. Flower. I said my feelings were hurt. As part of his response he said tomorrow wouldn't work. |
OP confirmed plans and proposed new plans. He responded with a flower. She responded that she was hurt.
His response was annoying, passive aggressive, and stupid. Agree with the PP that said he didn't want to commit to plans. OP response was dramatic and unhelpful. She should have just said nice flower, but my previous text not go through? |
OP here: Signing off - but, before I do, thank you. I think I need to focus on not being dramatic and sensitive. I appreciate everyone's feedback. |
Some of you are mental |