He critized me in our kids presence.
He insulted one of our kids. |
I’m dealing with similar. Sorry you’re going through this. |
I realized that when he would do something wrong, his impulse was to get angry with me, as if I did it. |
We’ve been semi separated for two years due to job situation. We speak over phone, get together for a week here and there. Have realized he likes the idea of me but when we actually share space it’s nothing but impatience, anger, distance. Financially better to stay, empty nesters, not worth divorce but I miss connection so much feel like I would leave if I thought I could find someone but since I’m in my 50’s won’t happen! |
DP . Well, he probably does not live up to OP’s expectations. |
Only a clone of herself would. Just divorce, OP. And get a few cats to keep yourself company the rest of your life. |
Sounds like you're someone that should be single. |
Same for me and my wife but it's not just when she does something wrong. It's when anything goes wrong, I'm for some reason the one who caused it. |
I'm trying to imagine why you prefer impatience, anger and distance over a peaceful, happy, totally self-controlled single life. You have a much better chance of making a good connection with someone if you are single than while still enmeshed in this dysfunctional relationship with him and afraid to make a move that is healthy. Even if you don't make another connection single life is light years better than what you describe. |
Bird in hand |
Really? Or do you just assume she’s upset (when she really isn’t) and immediately get defensive whenever she says or asks anything? Because that’s what my crazy DH does. He has some bizarre insecurity or simply assumes malicious intent ALWAYS. He will literally scream at me to stop screaming when I haven’t even raised my voice. The kids notice it and have determined he’s crazy. They love it when he’s not around. They wish we could leave him at home when we vacation. |
Irritability, mood swings, and low sex drive are all symptoms of low testosterone, which is common in middle-aged men. Is he able to be dragged to the doctor? |
But… he’s waving all the cheating red flags in your face. That or a health issue. A normal man doesn’t just abruptly stop being interested in sex. |