I’m not into celebrating my own birthday, Mother’s Day etc but I find it really sad that the bar is so low in some of these relationships. Shouldn’t your husband or wife be the one person acknowledging you? Ignoring their birthday entirely (no card, acknowledgement, simple dinner) is seriously narcissistic behavior. A grown adult can’t put a reminder in their calendar? Give me a break. This is a choice and a pretty sad one given it’s your life partner. |
Divorce |
NP. No! Wtf. You should've said, "Yes, I'd love that! Can you make a reservation please and let me know the details?" |
Maybe she did say something like that. She didn’t say no. If he set up the expectation he would do something, it’s even worse that he didn’t. |
I broke up with my longtime ex when he did nothing for my 30th.
DH always always does a card, flowers and dinner at a minimum and always asks what I would like. I never have to remind, hint, etc. I like a PP’s suggestion to have a “family traditions” book where everything is spelled out, since your DH seems like he would really benefit from something like that. |
According to you he just asked if you wanted to do something. He didn’t say he’d set anything up. |
So stupid. This is Real Housewives level of parsing language to try to wriggle free of consequences for not thinking before you speak. Feel sorry for people around you. |
Just say “hey, are we doing dinner for my birthday? You said you were going to make reservations. If you haven’t done it yet, I want to go [here], [here], or [here] since [40] is a big one and I want it to be special!” |
This year for my birthday I made reservations at a restaurant I wanted to try and told my family that that’s what we were doing for my birthday. It’s not hard, op. If you want something to happen, and you know your partner isn’t good at it (planning, making reservations, etc.) then you will just have to do it yourself. You say he has other great qualities, so focus on those! |
It does not take much to plan something, anything, however small. He is an adult. No excuse for inaction. |
Good god. We entrust men with nuclear weapons, billions of dollars, and airplanes, but they claim it's too confusing and complicated to do nice things for their wives. The bar is truly on the floor. |
He specifically asked her what she wanted and then didn't follow through. That is on him. When his birthday approaches, I'd ask him what exotic sexual favor he would like granted. Then, the night of his birthday, eat a large plate of beans. Fall asleep early, farting profusely. Now you are even. |
So...you just eat lettuce leaves and air? You sound like a skinny, four-eyed, limp-dicked loser. |
No he asked her if she wanted to go to dinner for her birthday. Then at 7:30 am op started to complain about no dinner and then abandoned the thread. |