Also, my son saw a neurologist until he was 10 and released from care. I live in the DMV. We have a wealth of specialists and medical researchers here. I trust them first and always have.
Boundaries are a thing. Don’t respect them and I’m out. |
Nosy personal opinions about his grandson???!!!! You have a different idea of family than I do. |
Not me as I was a small child, but years and years ago, we were at my grandparents for Easter (my father's parents). His father said some awful thing to my mother and next thing this 5 year old knew we were out the door and I didn't speak to my grandfather/step-grandmother for 18 years. |
I did. My sister was being being very nasty. I told my parents I will not put up with her abuse. I got in my car with my kids and left.
This was over 15 years ago. We're now close with adult children. It can change. Good luck. |
YEs, but not in the way you're referencing.
My sister (and her entire family) are coming to my lake home for the 4th of July. 13 ppl will be there. I envision us (and our spouses) taking the boat out for hours and leaving the kids home alone to bond - they're all in their 20s. They'll be fine, but loud and eating constantly while they play games or paddle around in the water. They can fend for themselves while we have some peace. |
NP. And? So? Yes, people have different views about what crossing a boundary is or isn't. That's why the polite thing to do is keep your personal opinions to yourself unless ASKED for advice. |
I'm curious about how many family members you have close relationships with, and what makes your family relationships different from work acquaintances? |
DP, I’m not the village gossip or a meddler in personal affairs. I never offer my opinion unless requested to anyone, even my own children or my spouse. And if I do make a suggestion that they don’t like after requesting feedback, I stop right away. That’s called basic social skills and respect. |
So you've never been concerned about any family member? |
NP. Where did they say they've never been concerned? They said they never offer their opinion, not that they don't have an opinion. |
NP and exactly this. If I have concerns I keep them to myself, unless there is imminent danger. Especially if I KNOW that the parents have sought medical advice, etc. I have concerns about my niece, but I know my sister and BIL are on top of taking her to various specialists and are following advice. I am there as a source of support and love. *If asked* or if the door to the conversation is opened by the parents, I will share perspective and thoughts. |
You know what we are going to say about this right? |
I'm with the PP who say don't go on a vacation with these people if you must have an escape plan. I get that sometimes we have to do thanksgiving dinner or a family event with people who push our buttons, but a vacation is for fun, and time off is precious, and I wouldn't sequester myself for days on end with people if this were my worry. |
You can always blame work. At least that is what the people who married into DH's family do - ALL of us. And by all means, do NOT stay the entire week. Maybe you can arrive late and/or leave early? |
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