Sibling is moving to a developing country with high crime

[Anonymous]

Just tell them you are worried abut their safety and please be careful.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You sound ignorant and like you never traveled anywhere.

Actually you sound ignorant. This is not about traveling. This is about living in another country. Totally different things.

And now you sound even more ignorant.

Is this your best response? Travelling to a country is in no way similar to living there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did your parents make you into a mini parent? You realize the US is a very dangerous country? Agree you need therapy.

Why does she need therapy? That’s a very normal response to hearing that your sister is moving to a dangerous developing country. And everyone has anxiety. If it’s debilitating then hopefully she sees a doctor for advice.

The US has a relatively stable government and people don’t routinely disappear never to be seen again. Unlike countries like Syria with a brutal dictator and constant civil wars.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How does that country's gun-death murder rate stack up against the US? More? Less?

This. Unless he/she is moving to an actual war zone, the USA isn’t the safest place to be living right now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just tell them you are worried abut their safety and please be careful.

Pretty much this all you can do. But also let them know that you hope they have a great time!


And make sure you're up to date on their location organization they are traveling with.

[Anonymous]

I wonder if the mean factor on DCUM correlates with the over mean factor in the DMV.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just want some advice on how to feel comfortable with it. I know bad things can happen to people even in safe places. But I can’t help but feel apprehensive about it.

How do you support someone in this? I know what I’m feeling is a reflection of my own issues (anxiety). Curious if anyone has dealt with this.

So, yes. I've dealt with a parent having crippling anxiety when I moved to a developing country. I avoided moving to one with higher crime for a better professional opportunity because of my father's anxiety. I wish he had kept his concerns to himself.

From your sister's perspective, please keep in mind that your sister is likely not hanging around the more dangerous places in this country. Both her neighborhood and the places she hangs out are probably in the nicer parts of town. There is probably security. The gun death rate is probably lower than in the US.

Try not to worry. It won't help. Try not to read every news story about crime in the country she's going to. Maybe visit her soon after she arrives so that you understand what her life is actually like as opposed to having your understanding based mostly on news stories and stereotypes, neither of which relate much to her day to day expeience.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Did your parents make you into a mini parent? You realize the US is a very dangerous country? Agree you need therapy.

Why does she need therapy? That’s a very normal response to hearing that your sister is moving to a dangerous developing country. And everyone has anxiety. If it’s debilitating then hopefully she sees a doctor for advice.

The US has a relatively stable government and people don’t routinely disappear never to be seen again. Unlike countries like Syria with a brutal dictator and constant civil wars.

Unless Sis is moving to Ukraine, Gaza, or Sudan, the new country probably doesn't have a higher murder rate than the good ol USA. Sis probably won't be murdered at a 4th of July parade, a school, a Las Vegas concert, a Batman showing, or any number of places where Americans are murdered daily.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did your parents make you into a mini parent? You realize the US is a very dangerous country? Agree you need therapy.

Why does she need therapy? That’s a very normal response to hearing that your sister is moving to a dangerous developing country. And everyone has anxiety. If it’s debilitating then hopefully she sees a doctor for advice.

The US has a relatively stable government and people don’t routinely disappear never to be seen again. Unlike countries like Syria with a brutal dictator and constant civil wars.

Unless Sis is moving to Ukraine, Gaza, or Sudan, the new country probably doesn't have a higher murder rate than the good ol USA. Sis probably won't be murdered at a 4th of July parade, a school, a Las Vegas concert, a Batman showing, or any number of places where Americans are murdered daily.

The US is huge. Florida, Texas, or any Deep South state can get you shot just by passing another car. They pretty much have no gun laws. New England has gun laws so you’re more likely to be murdered by a family member than a stranger with a gun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did your parents make you into a mini parent? You realize the US is a very dangerous country? Agree you need therapy.

Why does she need therapy? That’s a very normal response to hearing that your sister is moving to a dangerous developing country. And everyone has anxiety. If it’s debilitating then hopefully she sees a doctor for advice.

The US has a relatively stable government and people don’t routinely disappear never to be seen again. Unlike countries like Syria with a brutal dictator and constant civil wars.

Unless Sis is moving to Ukraine, Gaza, or Sudan, the new country probably doesn't have a higher murder rate than the good ol USA. Sis probably won't be murdered at a 4th of July parade, a school, a Las Vegas concert, a Batman showing, or any number of places where Americans are murdered daily.

You sound... very online. US is ranked 55 worldwide for intentional homicide rate. Plenty of countries are in far worse shape.

The US is huge. Florida, Texas, or any Deep South state can get you shot just by passing another car. They pretty much have no gun laws. New England has gun laws so you’re more likely to be murdered by a family member than a stranger with a gun.